The background story follows, but here's some of what I'm looking for
To those who have experience: (especially men)
Did you feel resentful when ending sex with no orgasm? Did the woman you were with do anything that helped you feel more inclined to do it? To those of you who used to have a lot of orgasmic sex before Karezza - did you find it especially difficult to come to enjoy or would you recommend anything or warn against anything? And how often did you start having Karezza sex and how long did the average session last? If you enjoy it now, how did you get into it?
Let me begin by admitting that I have always had a difficult time with sex. The skin down there is sensitive to a bad point, to where it feels like i have a friction burn after most times I have sex. I'd recently been feeling unappreciated because I felt my strengths were overlooked because I didn't offer enough sexually to my boyfriend, and he presented the idea of Karezza to me. We're both in our 20's and there's a stigma that females at my age should be wanting sex all the time... and that's just not my case, even though he's incredible and not selfish at all in bed.
We decided to try Karezza, but he didn't want to do it fully. First, he figured we could have Karezza some nights and traditional sex on others, so we could get a release. Eventually he agreed to the "Karezza only for 2 weeks" experiment, but he turned down the recommended 2 weeks of sexual inactivity accompanied by affection and penis massages and other ways to break that biological impulse.
I've loved it, and it always feels good while we're doing it, but ending it is awful. Because there isn't that release, he never feels satisfied and eventually when I feel it's time to go to stop or go to sleep (whether it's midnight or 2am) he's always frustrated and I can't help but feel terrible, which almost makes me want to do it less. I've read that some people do it very often, but did you begin like that? It seems like that would leave him perpetually frustrated.
I've read that many couples who do Karezza will fall asleep like that, but he's not ok with it. It's not relaxing for him and I think it's because we didn't take the suggested two weeks to try to break those evolutionary impulses. BUT I wonder how other men got into it, how they felt during those two weeks, IF you took 2 or 3 weeks off before beginning Karezza and if you think it helps to take every other night off. I would love for him to be able to really enjoy it, but after doing it for a while he just doesn't like it.
Please, any input, tips, thoughts, or personal feelings on this are greatly appreciated. Men, please help me try to understand what to expect or what to do to help my guy be able to connect with me on this.