starting again

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I noticed while logging on this morning that I've been a member for about 3 and a half years. I haven't participated as much here, other than intermittent bursts, and I think I first acknowledged that I had a porn addiction about 10 years ago. So, while I've had the addiction for much longer, maybe 18 years?, I've been struggling with it since I've realized I had it.

I've read statements about commitment and the 'porn is not an option' mindset. I've used it in the past, and it has been effective. Just the past couple of days I used it and it remained effective... until it wasn't. there was something in the post about that mindset about making a choice, a commitment of never looking at porn again. If this is true then I haven't made that choice because I do relapse. I want to make that choice because I'm sick of struggling with this thing. I want it gone. I want that that mindset. I don't want to fall into pity and self loathing either. I want to work on this.

So I will.

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May I suggest...

one of these other forums? Your peers have created a number of excellent ones:

REBOOT NATION http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php

YOURBRAINREBALANCED.COM

NoFap.org

r/Pornfree

REDDIT.NoFap

Everything we've learned from the men recovering is collected here: www.yourbrainonporn.com

Good luck. Trust that all your hard work is not lost. Are you in a relationship? If so, you may want to play around with this for a while during recovery: Karezza is for addicts (too)

Thanks Marnia, I'll head on

Thanks Marnia, I'll head on over and check those forums out and join one.

I'm not in a relationship but thanks for the info.

And thank you for all your work on this issue and karezza as well. I know you've helped lots of lives and that this addiction stuff came unexpected. When I first started looking into recovery most of what was out there was religious and I prefer a knowledge based approach, which you and Gary have provided. I'm so thankful for this and am glad there have been those who are passing on the torch, so to speak.

Best wishes to you and the whatever area of work you're pursuing.