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Feb 2013 Update

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There has been discussion about me on the forums lately so I decided that I should write an update to my blog. This update is not about Karezza really. It is more about my whole philosphy on sex going forward.

Some people seem to have the impression that I am martyring myself for the good of my marriage. That is not true. What is true is that I have come to some understandings about intimacy in my marriuage and I have made my peace with them.

There are two key points:

Hormone Benefits of Kissing

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This is a short update to pass on an article that I recently read about kissing ...

http://www.livescience.com/3328-saliva-secret-ingredient-kisses.html

Back in November I pledged to give up masturbation. Since then my wife has become very keen to kiss me as often as she can. My guess is that my testosterone levels have risen and she is getting some of it from me when we kiss.

New Years Update

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Hello All

It has been a while since I have updated my blog so I thought that I should throw up a post to let people know where I am at.

No karezza yet.

I am sure that some people are reading this and saying to themselves "Louie, what is wrong with you?! You need to get this going! The sooner the better!"

All I can say in response is trust me. I know what I am doing.

Going Forward In Our Own Way

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My wife and I had a great weekend. One of our kids was sick so we spent the entire weekend at home and I think that we needed that quiet relaxation time. Sunday was an especially good day. We had a nice cuddle session. I allowed my hand to rest on different parts of her body. After a few minutes I moved it somewhere else. She really liked that. There was no goal to it. When my hand eventually arrived at her right breast (above the heart) she put her own hand on top of it to signal that she wanted it to stay there for a while.

Honesty and Integrity

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I have noticed a few things about myself since I decided to give up M. I am much more comfortable being completely honest with people, and I am able to brush off the dramas that erupt in my life much more easily.

My wife has always been somewhat emotionally reactive. That is to say that she gets upset easily, and when she is upset she needs to vent.

Karezza Causing Emotional Release

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I would like to share something that happened on the weekend.

Sunday morning my wife and I had a very long cuddle session. We woke up early and cuddled for 2.5 hours until the kids got up. We were in a really good space. Lots of energy was flowing between us and we were really connected. When the kids arrived in our bed they had love showered on them from two parents who felt overflowing with love. It was awesome.

Lacking motivation to move forward right now

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I am at an odd point in my growth it seems.

On one hand, I know that karezza is something that my marriage needs. On the other hand, I am not all that motivated to do it right now.

My sex drive is quite low since I decided to reboot from M. In fact, my energy in general is low. I just feel like I want to be alone much of the time. Is this part of the reboot process?

Yesterday my wife came into the bathroom naked to get in the bath. I felt only a mild stirring of desire. Mostly, the response to seeing her naked was flat.

Karezza Relationship

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In a seperate thread I was asked if I feel stuck in my marriage. I answered that at length (I do not feel stuck) and I will not repeat that post here. However, I do want to explore an idea that came to me right at the end. It dawned on me that I am doing the entire relationship the same way that I would do an individual session of karezza.

The Most Bizzare Thing Happened Last Night

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I am currently rebooting from a lifelong habit of fantasy driven M. I was up to day 15 after deciding to go cold turkey. Last night at about 3:30AM I had a really good dream about my wife and ejaculated in my sleep. No big deal on that. I knew it was a possibility and I am not fazed by it. That is not the bizzare part.

The bizzare part is that when I came back to bed I noticed that my wife was lying on her back with her legs spread. She never sleeps like that. In any case, I went back to sleep.

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