I would like to share something that happened on the weekend.
Sunday morning my wife and I had a very long cuddle session. We woke up early and cuddled for 2.5 hours until the kids got up. We were in a really good space. Lots of energy was flowing between us and we were really connected. When the kids arrived in our bed they had love showered on them from two parents who felt overflowing with love. It was awesome.
Then, around noon, everything turned on a dime. Both my wife and I felt very physically tired and we started sniping at each other. It was a very quick change. At noon we were both feeling great and by 2:00 we did not even want to be around each other. My wife accused me of waking her up too early, she pushed me away when I offered her a hug and then retreated to a room by herself for a while. She did not look happy. I was not too happy about her either. I was fine with her being in another room. That vibe lasted for most of Sunday.
I have done some reading since then and I have found that intense energetic experiences can cause suppressed emotional energy to surface for release. Some people experience this with meditation. After an especially blissful meditation session they may experience all kinds of negative energy that comes up from within them, causes them to feel miserable for no reason, and then passes. Afterward they feel as if a weight has been lifted from them. The same thing can happen with karezza.
My understanding is that healing activities like meditation and karezza can kick-off an eneregtic cleansing process. When that happens, emotional energy that is stored in a person's body will be shaken loose and then has to be cleared from the system. This can be experienced as physical tension, emotional tension or even uncomfortable movements of energy.
There is a good analogy about cleaning pipes. For many of us, our energetic system is clogged with lots of emotional garbage. This stuff is not necessarily moving. It just sits there like grime in a pipe constricting our energetic flow. Then something happens to knock some of this grime loose. It is now moving in the system and thus we feel crummy. However, it eventually flows out and we are left with a system that is cleaner and flowing more smoothly.
I think that my wife and I hit a new high in our relationship healing Sunday morning and this caused all kinds of resentment, blame and hard feelings between us that had been surpressed over the years to come up for release. It was uncomfortable to go through, especially after the way we had been feeling that morning, but it was ultimately good for us.
Today we are back to normal. That phase passed and we feel good about ourselves and our marriage again. In fact, it honestly does feel like a layer of tension that existed between us has fallen away.
I just thought I would throw that out there in case other people have similar confusing experiences. Amazing highs can cause confusing lows, but ultimately, it all contributes to an upward trend over time. The key to getting through the lows is to not fixate on them. Recognize what they are (conflicted energy being purged) and find ways to nurture yourself until the episode passes. Try not to introduce any new conflicted energy to the relationship at that time (ie. don't blame your spouse). Just let it pass on its own. Then you can enjoy the new lightness of being that follows.