In a seperate thread I was asked if I feel stuck in my marriage. I answered that at length (I do not feel stuck) and I will not repeat that post here. However, I do want to explore an idea that came to me right at the end. It dawned on me that I am doing the entire relationship the same way that I would do an individual session of karezza.
I am moving forward very slowly. When I encounter resistance of some kind I do not attempt to push through it. I move back a bit and just stay there. There is something here that needs to be explored so I explore it. I stay with my wife at whatever level she is at until she loosens up and releases the tension at that level of our relationship. Then I move forward slowly until the next time that there is resistance.
In karezza sex it is a mistake to try and force your way in. The goal is not to get your penis in as fast as possible. You move at whatever pace is comfortable for both of you, and you take however much time is required.
In karezza relationship the same could be said about sex itself. The goal is not to get her in bed as fast as possible. You move at whatever pace is comfortable for both of you, and you take however much time is required.
I suppose you could say that the last three years have been one long penetration into the depths of my wife's heart. There have been numerous points where I had to stop and back up again. I am about 70% of the way in now. That is my gut feel on the whole thing. At this point, most of my tension is gone. I am in no hurry to get through that last 30%. I intend to enjoy every step along the way.
Karezza at the micro level, and the macro level too. It is karezza through and through.