Today I told my wife that I have been spacing out my ejaculations to the point where I only do it about twice a month, and I intend to continue with that trend and hopefully strech it out over time. I told her that I have noticed my mind is much sharper, my thinking is calmer and more clear, and my general outlook on life is much better when I do not ejaculate for a prolonged period of time. She told me she has noticed that I have been very upbeat the past few months. We have not been very sexually active in that time, so she would not know if I was ejaculating frequently or not. However, she seemed to readily accept that not ejaculating frequently has an obvious (positive) effect on me.
Since she did not seem to have any concerns about this, I carried on and told her that I am also changing my outlook on sex. In the past I have been way too goal oriented. It was all about building passion and making it a performance. I do not want sex to be like that anymore. I would like sex to be much more relaxed. It should be about bonding rather than lust. She had her doubts about how that would work, but she had no objections to trying it.
So, it is now out there. The next time we have sex she will not be surprised when I take it slow and easy (provided that she remembers this conversation). She will not be surprised when I stop short of an orgasm. Just to be sure though, when I do stop I will remind her of why (not ejaculating). I will not force anything on her. If she wants to O then she can. That is her choice. I will take no responsibility for that. However, I will take full responsibility for myself and make the conscious choice to conserve my sexual essence and share myself in other ways.
I realize that this is easier said than done. If she does have an O it will be hard to not follow her over the edge. We will see when the time comes.