We have been practicing karezza like lovemaking for around three years but we don't abstain from orgasm completely. I usually ejaculate inside her day before starting of her menstrual cycle. We know it's safe time for that. But there has been also few incidents of surprise orgasms and wet dreaming inside her. But we generally stay around in a non-aroused relaxed state far from orgasm ( around 50-60% considering 100% for orgasm). My wife is 36 years old and has been using pills for birth control. We never liked condom.

The goal of our lovemaking is to physically and mentally unite. We do it to comfort each other rather than to satisfy only our own sexual hunger. Sometimes we are aroused, but most of the the times we are barely aroused. Nothing can make us more relaxed than me resting deep inside her.