This is an anonymous request, but I thought it a good idea to get feedback from all of you:
I am investigating the means by which we can control ejaculation / orgasm during Karezza. I can see it from a man’s point of view; I need to understand the process from the female perspective. I have always been averse to the techniques promoted by some authors who use simple pressure on the perineum to block the flow. Some authors are even proud of their ability to divert the flow into their bladders. It is so crude and misses the point.
Our sexual energy inevitably builds up in the genitals during Karezza. To prevent it bursting from the genitals it needs to be diverted rather than blocked. It can be diverted to do the good work of strengthening the bonds of love between partners. It is this diversion I am focussed upon.
Of course there is the simple technique of freezing all movement and breathing to let the ‘storm’ pass but I have also been trying to divert the sexual energy away from the genitals by a visualization technique. This visualization may accord with a reality or it may be just a device to stop ejaculation. Either way it is worth considering.
I did put in my book a diagram of ‘One Pattern of Energy Flow’ (see attachment). This particular pattern of flow is derived from Indian sources on Kundalini and from ancient Chinese sources on Chi. Sexual energy arises in the genitals and can be visualized to flow up the spine to the head then down the front to the heart and belly. This pattern of flow does correspond to the science in that the up-flow is via the spinal nervous system and the down-flow could go via the Parasympathetic System (Vagus nerve and cranial nerves). This is a simplistic view of the nervous system but I didn’t want to get lost in a discussion of Sympathetic, Parasympathetic, spinal nerves and hormonal releases from hypothalamus etc. AND we don’t want to attempt a visualization of such a complex picture. I also didn’t want to throw too much complex science at the reader.
In this simple schema the ‘energy’ can flow down to the pelvis whence it sets up a circuit of flow within (the science can support that) or it flow out to your partner (science does not support that, unless we include the effects of thinking). It can, of course, be doing both things at once.
But an important question arises about what happens to the flow (in man and in woman) when the man enters the woman. In the diagram the flow illustrated corresponds to the state of things during Karezza when the man has not yet entered. What can and does happen after he enters is either [a] the man cannot stop himself and there is a great outflow from his genitals ... the ‘seed’ is lost and all is over. [b] the man does control himself and energy is still diverted upwards within, to head & heart and out to his partner in many routes other than just the genitals ... the session of Karezza is ‘successful’ ... bonding without ejaculation.
BUT what is the flow doing in the woman? Granted it is the same circuit within, although the primary source of sexual energy may not be the genitals. My wife tells me hers arises from the head / chest (she held her arm horizontally below her breasts and said it’s “from above here”) and the genitals becomes a secondary source only with stimulation. Of course, in men they too ‘feed’ with their eyes and imagination initially but the primary source of most sexual energy appears to be their genitals. Or are they simply quicker at transferring their focus in ‘normal’ circumstances (other than during Karezza?
So what happens in a woman after the man enters?
Does she continue to draw the flow AWAY from her genitals INTERNALLY (as does the man in his attempts to avoid ejaculation) OR DOES SHE ALLOW A (MAJOR) PART OF HER ENERGY TO FLOW OUT FROM HER GENITALS?
This may only be a question of the ideal visualisation, but it may also be a real event.
It is interesting that the ancient literature does describe a flow from the female to the male. They are not only describing a spiritual event but a tangible flow of some ‘fluid’.
This would seem reversal of the normal animalistic event. A full exchange of energies / ‘fluids’ between hands, eyes, breaths, hearts, bellies and genitals would also be a fair exchange. It should result in closer bonding, soul-bonding (J W Lloyd) or Divine Union.I have been unable to talk this with many other women. I have tried, but few understand what I am on about.What do think? What is your experience? I think it is of value to investigate this because it helps both genders to control the ejaculation of the man and should help Karezza to succeed for both.