who likes cuddling and massage, but doesn't care about sex. He's functional, not a porn user. He just doesn't feel drawn to sex. He's flexible about relocating.
I'm posting this for a man, whom I met briefly about 15 years ago. He's a lovely guy. Bright, good conversationalist and deep thinker. I told him that there are asexuality forums, which might be a good bet.
If anyone here has suggestions for him, please let me know.
I don’t really care much about sex. It is not high on my list of relationship priorities. But I do care about you. I care about the softness of my touch and the depth of our connection. I care about bonding. Slow heartbeats quietly in sync, our foreheads pressed together, the tips of our noses brushing up against one another and our eyes locked in mutual adoration. This is the kind of loving that calls to me.
Interviewer Lucien Bonnafoux and Marnia discuss karezza, human pair-bonding perils and bonding behaviors. Lucien was a bit distracted, but there's some good information. Be prepared to fast-forward through the interminable ads.
Youth and intense sexual arousal are a surprisingly volatile combination
Research on animals suggests that first sexual experiences may have more power to shape our individual sexual proclivities than we would guess, and that they do so via specific brain mechanisms. Consider the following research on young, virgin rats:
Often people ask about resources for introducing a partner to the karezza-style sex concept. This film is an excellent tool for the purpose.
The most powerful part is the couples describing their experiences with both conventional sex and the non-orgasm-focused approach. They are all so natural and genuine. It is clear their feelings for each other are warm, playful, sane and sustainable.
Whoever tests this for long-distance karezza has to let us know how it goes! (Thanks to forum member who sent it.) Can't believe it would really give the benefits of a true bonding behavior, but tell all if you try it.
So far, the CBS folks in NYC, Philly and LA have dismantled (and mispronounced) the concept of karezza. Here's the LA version, which is particularly entertaining: