My goodness, I have gained so much from revisiting Reuniting recently. The tips I have picked up from wealth of info on this wonderful site have made a huge difference to my practice in recent months, just wanted to express my deepest gratitude to Marnia and everyone who has ever contributed.
Our Karezza has gotten far better lately due to a few things:
Firstly, not using condoms for bc anymore has changed everything. We have been practising Karezza for 15ish years (been at least a decade since I last posted here) but only reached the next level of wow when we transitioned to using an subscription based temp charting contraceptive app to give green days and red days.
Secondly, when I learnt about staying at 6 or 7 not 8 or 9, led me to relaxing as opposed to holding on tight and needing to stop often to stay off the edge (thinking back we did this for most of it, doesn't sound fun but had the trade off that the chemistry between us at least stayed alive for all those years). It is the paradox of Karezza, the most amazing feelings happen during each moment of letting go of tension not building up of tension as in the "normal" way.
Thirdly, the sending of the energy generated to the heart has had a profound effect on me. Nowadays I feel easily elated by any damn thing. A real lightness of being. What a huge gift I have received, to have learnt this and experienced the cumulative effects of this practice. Thank you again so very much.