Day 129 without porn. Feeling fine, but lonely.

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Barring the exception of an unstimulating relapse 29 days ago (see earlier posts), I have gone 129 days without porn. I've gone 7 days without MO. I feel like I'm doing good, like I could go another week or two without masturbation / orgasm. I feel like I'm kind of in a flatline phase. I see girls, and I see that they're attractive, but I don't get excited about it downstairs. Which is fine. I'm pretty busy anyway.

I have to admit, I do feel increasingly lonely though. Don't get me wrong - I have plenty of friends, including female friends. But I find myself longing very much for physical intimacy. But I just don't feel comfortable approaching my close female friends about cuddle sessions, or whatever else people usually suggest here. I think it's a good idea, it makes sense that physical touch is such a huge part of emotional intimacy, more so than sex. I just don't want to cross any boundaries or make anyone feel uncomfortable.

So yeah, I'm doing fine. I'm certainly more rebalanced than I was 129 days ago, or six months ago when I first started this whole process. But I'm lonely and I really crave physical touch, more than I remember craving it ever in the past.

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I find myself starting to be

I find myself starting to be in a similar situation (I'm on Day 134). I feel pretty good and balanced, but definitely starting to crave physical intimacy. It feels almost like craving the feeling of sweating hard after a hard workout. I'm also not quite in a life situation where getting a cuddle buddy is very feasible. I think the craving is good though- signals you're pretty well healed.

Yeah, defintely sounds like

Yeah, defintely sounds like we're in the same boat. A cuddle buddy doesn't seem feasible, but neither does a girlfriend. I'm extremely busy, and there's a good chance I could be living in a different city a few months from now.

But I feel like when that time comes, whoever she is will be quite happy. I never really realized until I saw that I had a problem with porn how serious this is. I don't think it's anything short of an epidemic, especially with the younger guys/couples who don't have anything physically wrong with them that could cause ED. Having gone through this rebooting process and looking back on how messed up I was, I actually feel quite sorry for women out there who have to compete with the fantasies of porn, because I know they can't compete. The only way a guy hooked on porn can have a healthy sex life is to give up the porn and rewire his brain.

With all of that being said, even though I know I won't be a perfect boyfriend or significant other for someone (who is?), at least there's one thing she won't have to worry about, and that's having to compete with porn for my attention and sexual interest.

Here's the thing....

some of your female friends are probably also aching for touch.

What about sharing one of these articles with them just to see what they think? Make a game of it. Wave them around and say you're offering a free chocolate bar to anyone who wants to snuggle up and watch a movie with you.cheeky

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