My gf gets really really horny and turned on whenever we have sex and that hasn't changed with karezza sex. I've constantly tried my best to get her to relax by breathing into belly, taking longer breaths, synching her breathing with mine. She would typically loose control if she's on top of me or if I'm thrusting at a moderate speed. Almost always I can feel her vagina constantly and unwillingly contracting and squeezing my penis. It would only relax a bit after I get her to breath deeper.
She has agreed to doing karezza sex and does see that it has had an effect on us. Though I wonder whether I am repressing her because I feel like whenever I try to get her to breath, she's "under control " and I'm afraid I"m not allowing her to just let loose.
I also don't completely let loose because if I do - I'll ejaculate and orgasm.
Also, what are your experiences of the pros and cons of including a bit of aggression even if not orgasming ? Things like bites and butt smacks ?
Any thoughts ?