Bliss

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It has been awhile since I've blogged here, but I finally feel I have a few things to write about, so I thought I'd give it a go...I'll write about the other things in separate posts. This one is about bliss.

Our lovemaking has become so easy and the only word I can think of to describe it is bliss. Other words for it could be "samadhi" or "satori" or "ananda"~~these are states of presence I've read and learned about that can be achieved during lovemaking when you are able to leave your mind behind. This state of leaving the mind behind is what draws us to sex in the first place; the ability to get out of our minds and just be in our bodies. It is blissful to just *be* with no expectations and nothing but ecstasy.

For me, it is no longer such an effort to stay in my body and out of mind, partly because I try to practice this all throughout the day, not just during lovemaking. The more I do it, the longer I am able to stay out of my mind, the easier it becomes. I know I am doing it right when a huge feeling of peace and love comes over my body. What comes over me is pure contentment and a feeling of being in a divine state with my lover.

To quote Osho, "In a deep orgasmic state, time disappears, mind disappears, ego disappears. And because these three things disappear, great joy arises. That arising of joy has nothing to do with sex either; it is because sex helped, became a context for the disappearance of the ego, mind and time."

Sometimes I have what feels like a hallucination of sorts during lovemaking; I can relax so completely, go to my third eye, and just let waves of love come over me to the point where I can see a white light that spreads a beautiful glow over our bodies and this glow is there whether I have my eyes opened or closed. Everything is so quiet and surreal and I know this will sound strange, but I can feel the presence of *something* in the room with us...there is a feeling of stillness and sacredness and at this time I will usually give a prayer of thanks (and sometimes my eyes will well up with grateful tears).

There are other times where we are both giving to each other the most we have available to give...it's an energy exchange of yin and yang and it pulsates and seems to last forever and then it's done. And then we are done because we gave all we had to give. But while this is happening it's like that warm, fuzzy feeling you get before having an orgasm (well, for a woman, I'm not sure what a man feels), but it lasts and lasts and there is no peak and no drop. And then it just stops. And when it stops you feel complete and you are ready to go on about your day or go to sleep.

All of this has become like medicine to both of us. Not only do we want it, but we need it. It's essential to our partnership and to our happiness. There isn't much else that holds as much importance in our lives as our time together making love. It's what makes everything else meaningful...we always put our time together first. The joy it brings us spills over into our everyday lives and truly makes life worth living. I feel so blessed to have my lover and to be able to share this bliss with him. I realize this is the first person with whom I've ever truly made love and I just feel so fortunate that I've been able to experience this in my lifetime.

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Thank you for sharing your

Thank you for sharing your experiences with the forum. I'm gives me a sense of comfort and hope to know that these types of loving experiences are truly real and accessible. I plan on having some of my own one day!

Yep, the blissful posts get

Yep, the blissful posts get the least comments, its true! Thank you both for doing this work, the most joyous work of all, the greatest offering to the world. So happy for you two, and all who you are affected by this love that radiates outwards.

I love the bliss

This is amazing and to think that it is possible makes it all the more desirable and piercing. I say "Piercing" because it is an assurance that we CAN know heaven on earth, even as so many around us say that is not so. And to be aware of this possibility and to feel/think that you can't attain it is what makes it so piercing.
I struggle with meditation, centering prayer practices b/c my mind is hard to turn off. Which practices have you found to be most successful in staying in body during the day?

Thank you~

Thank you, everyone, for the uplifting words!

EG, I would have to say the most helpful advice for me as far as how to stay in the body during the day has come from Eckhart Tolle (thanks, Kevin and Donna, for recommending his books). Everyone is different and everyone learns a different way, so I don't know if his words will help you as they have helped me...but the way he describes how to stay in the body and in the present moment on a *daily* basis has been so helpful for me. (just as helpful as Diana Richardson's words have been for me as far as how to stay present during lovemaking)

I've read both "A New Earth" and "The Power of Now" and just last week received a 2-dvd set of a recorded presentation he did and I listen to it in my car and it's just wonderful, I think. Before I started reading his books I had read several (four or five?) of Osho's books and I love them, too. But they are more about how to live your life and not so much as how to actually *do* things. But I love them all~~

I say read everything you can get your hands on and take it all in and let what resonates with you work from within you...the message in the end is the same, though...live each moment fully through your body and stop letting your mind define you~~life will become happier and more peaceful!

the Tolle books have helped me so much

I've been practicing that "go into the body" stuff for a long time now and when I started Karezza, it was easier for me to focus on my root and during lovemaking to do that. I didn't realize until you mentioned it how useful this has been for me and may have accounted for how natural this has felt from the very beginning. 

So happy.

[quote=Rachel] Sometimes I have what feels like a hallucination of sorts during lovemaking; I can relax so completely, go to my third eye, and just let waves of love come over me to the point where I can see a white light that spreads a beautiful glow over our bodies and this glow is there whether I have my eyes opened or closed. Everything is so quiet and surreal and I know this will sound strange, but I can feel the presence of *something* in the room with us...there is a feeling of stillness and sacredness and at this time I will usually give a prayer of thanks (and sometimes my eyes will well up with grateful tears). [/quote]

Rachel,

I am always so happy to read your posts. You are such a blessing. I have experienced what you described, maybe three times, about a year ago. Perhaps I am being greedy, but I so want to go there again.

Always looking forward to your next post.
Jesse