Body/breast/femininity changes through karezza

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Back in July, I wrote to Diana Richardson to ask her about something she mentions in her video (and her books) as far as body changes that can happen when a woman brings her focus into her breasts and begins to love herself and feel herself in that way. I do a daily breast meditation and also get and give all my love through my breasts when I am with my beloved. About a year ago, I had to purchase new bras that are several cup sizes larger (although my band size has decreased), while still wearing the same jeans, etc., and have noticed my thighs are smaller and more toned. My breasts also feel very firm and round...and are extremely (delightfully) sensitive to the touch. I *love* my new body (finally! I am now 52 and it's the first time I've really, truly accepted it). Here is what I wrote:

"Dear Diana, I am so curious about something you mentioned in the video with Eva-Maria Zurhorst about how your body has changed over the years from practicing tantra and tapping into your divine feminine. My beloved and I have been practicing for about 2-1/2 years now and amazingly enough, my body has changed somewhat dramatically. I’ve always been tall and thin
and somewhat “busty,” but now my breasts are so much larger than they have ever been! I’m just curvier overall although my thighs have gotten smaller. Also, my hair has grown longer and thicker and I find myself wanting to present myself to the world in a much more feminine manner (I will wear a bit of a heel with jeans, etc., something I would never have done in the past).

I was married previously for over 20 years and we did not have a sexually loving relationship, although we loved each other immensely as friends, mostly. Over the years of being married and not being loved (or giving love) as a woman, I found myself starting to slowly become less feminine in my looks and my attire. I was almost embarrassed to show my femininity and would wear loose shirts, etc., to hide my breasts (I didn’t like them!). Now I wear form-fitting clothes and show off my curves to the world. I’m just wondering if this was also your experience and is this common? I have brought my breasts into the center of my lovemaking and it has made all the difference in the world. I feel like such a voluptuous woman now and this is the way I’ve always dreamed of making
love. I’ve never been happier!

Anyway, thank you so much for all of your teachings (I have all of your books and just keep constantly reading them in a rotation)~~you have changed my life forever for the better!"

And here is how she responded:

"Hello Love,

A joy to receive your message, so many thanks for writing. So interesting to read about your bodily changes/attitude/feelings of femininity, and these certainly bear testament to how sincerely you have integrated 'my' approach into your way of being.
Beautiful to experience how true femininity is a byproduct of changing of our sexual ways, compliments to you and your beloved.

Quite some women do notice similar changes, although not all such a noticeable breast enlargement! In my case they have retained their 'nubility' or 'nubile-ness' (if there are such words!) and with me rising sixty they continue to be radiant and sweet! For me a visible integration and balancing between upper and lower body took place, plus some changes in the legs, and now that you mention about the hair, that is so interesting, coz i never thought about it. i started this sexual approach in my early thirties after a couple of years living in India....I was in India for ten years all in all, and i always put my hair growth down to my hair being happy to be in india
- after all look at the indian women's hair!!! I always had longish mid-back hair since a girl, but then it just took off and has continued to do so, and now i cut it twice a year and 'keep it short' level with my bum, if i did not do this it would for sure go way below my knees.

So thrilled to hear that you are so happy with your life and lovemaking, that your dreams have come true! all the best to you dear, thank you again also for your Kelly input in the Tantric Love Letters book,and nice to hear that you find there is value in reading the books again and again.

Best wishes, and much love to you and your beloved each day,


Since writing her, I have also finished reading her newest book, "Tantric Love Letters," (she used my writing on pages 22-24; thanks for arranging that, Marnia!)~~and I was excited to see these words on page 184:

"As you begin to make love in a new way, as suggested in my book, your body will also start to change. And it does not matter that you are fifty-four. Great changes are still possible at any age, the body is always totally read to cooperate with your awareness. Breasts grow, thighs slim down, a unity exists in the body, a quality of serenity arises, movement becomes graceful, all as reflections of self-love and inner beauty. I wish you the courage to trust in your inner world, and the readiness to take steps into the unknown. Doing so will increase your joy and zest for life, which in turn will make you feel youthful and uplifted and empowered."

And when I read this, I said "Yes!"! That is how I feel~~very powerful, very feminine, very beautiful, very peaceful. When I walk out into the world I am aware of my inner divine feminine being and am not ashamed of it *nor* trying to exploit it~~it's just the way I am and it feels natural and good. I think the reason I feel so empowered is because this feeling belongs to *me* comes from inside and I have it within me as I travel through life~~no one can take it away from me. As important as I feel it is to have the masculine balance which you receive from a man through lovemaking, a woman also needs to give back the feminine energy and this is how you cultivate it.

And then, coincidentally (not really, as I don't believe in coincidences!), I was flipping through her "Tantric Orgasm for Women" book and saw these words that I had marked a couple of years ago (not knowing what was in store for me):

"A woman might question whether encouraging a man to lust after her perfect breasts really serves her orgasmic potential in the long run. When a woman loves her own breasts and allows a man to love her breasts, they respond to the positive attention. Many women report an increase in breast size after they begin to make love according to female and male polarity~~through bringing the breasts into their rightful magnetic alignment."

Now when we make love, I feel it *through* my breasts and my vagina responds in such a way that gives a full "yes" to my lover. Also, he can touch them and feel the energy pulse through his penis. Many times after lovemaking, he will lie on top of me with his head between my breasts and there is such a feeling of coming home and being loved (for both of us).

As Diana says, it's never too late to rediscover your body and its potential~~and I say it's better late than never! Smile




Yes, I have a very good helper in that regard, too~~ Smile If we lived together I'm sure he'd volunteer to do the daily breast meditation for me every day!

(For Emerson, you're welcome! I'm glad you enjoyed it!)

Expanding feminine radiance

Rachael, similar things have happened to Annabelle as well. Friends and folks that havent seen her for a while will say things like, " you look more beautiful than I remember you, what have you been doing". With a twinkle in her eye she says, "lots of great sex". If you look at a picture of her from 20 years ago the change is remarkable. 20 years older and she looks younger, prettier, and way more radiant. Annabelle says, "I've found the secret fountain of youth". Just think where you'll be in another 10 years!!

Love it!

I *have* seen photos of Annabelle from before and after (creeping on you on Facebook!) and I agree with your assessment! (of course, she's always been beautiful, but she is now just *so* amazingly divine).

Have you looked around and noticed how many women, as they get older, start to look masculine? They lose their ability to smile (permanent downward grimace) and they don't seem to care about their appearance. I really think it's the loss of that yin and yang energy exchange/balance and it makes me so grateful I did not continue down that road.

Yes, I have seen how women

Yes, I have seen how women loose their femininity over time. Of course its no wonder in our culture where the feminine is objectified instead of honored. I believe you, Annabelle and other women who are reclaiming their feminine radiance are becoming becons and examples for other women to do the same. Recently a friend of her's said Annabelle's femininity and her comfort in it inspired this friend to let more of her own feminine radiance shine out. She said, "If Annabelle can do it then I can do it too". Its wonderful to spead the message of karezza by living example.

Interesting posts

I have also noticed that as older women become "invisible" in our culture, they do take on "sensible" nondescript clothing--the short hair styles, pants, etc. I'm starting to think that when I become invisible to men as a sexual partner, I just might turn everyday into a costume party. One day I'll dress like a 1940s society matron, the next like a fashion plate from 1918, the next like a Jane Austen worries about whether any one finds it fashionable or sexy, but whether it pleases me.

I'm intrigued by these changes some women have noted. Lately, I feel like I have been in a struggle between my feminine and masculine side, or maybe it is more of a struggle of bisexual attraction. This really came out when I went to an anime convention and dressed as a male character from my favorite Japaneses cartoon. It was fun to get hugs, ask women to dance (I went to a swing dance one evening) and act all manly. I don't think I fooled anyone into thinking I was a male, but it was fun to dress up. I actually have been thinking about cutting my hair short and going for edgy, sexy androgynous, but now this post makes me reconsider it.


I don't ever plan on becoming "invisible" to men as a sexual partner~~in fact, I have a feeling I'm going to get sexier as I continue this path of femininity~~you can't help it, it just happens when you get out of your mind and into your body.

I have to say

my wife has increased her femininity also, maybe over the past year that we've been practicing Karezza. She wears tight fitting tops and tight pants, and looks incredible. Her hair is really nicely done compared to the past. It's maybe in the eye of the beholder but I think it's objectively true. She is moving backwards in age. Her sisters look kind of matronly and drab, sadly...

And just to stay on topic...

Yesterday I explained to her how women have become detached from their breasts and how I think that might contribute to breast cancer. I don't have any data to support that, but to me it makes sense that if you don't "visit" a body part, if it's a useless appendage, then it might be more likely to suffer from this lack of love. She let me massage her breasts this morning. We have a friend who is going through breast cancer surgury today. I'm going to continue laboring with her breasts as it is a great hardship but that's what men are for. And we'll see how that works Crazy


I have to love your persistence, lol.

And I have to agree with you about the body and what might happen when it feels neglected. The breasts just come alive when you "tend to" them. Mine are so much firmer than they used to be and if I even lightly brush across my nipples the sensation is so charged (all the time). I love it.

persistence is often all it takes

thanks Rachel. It has been totally worth it because I know this stuff works and it has transformed my life.

My wife is coming around with Karezza. It just keeps getting better and better. This stuff really takes time sometimes...