Back in July, I wrote to Diana Richardson to ask her about something she mentions in her video (and her books) as far as body changes that can happen when a woman brings her focus into her breasts and begins to love herself and feel herself in that way. I do a daily breast meditation and also get and give all my love through my breasts when I am with my beloved. About a year ago, I had to purchase new bras that are several cup sizes larger (although my band size has decreased), while still wearing the same jeans, etc., and have noticed my thighs are smaller and more toned. My breasts also feel very firm and round...and are extremely (delightfully) sensitive to the touch. I *love* my new body (finally! I am now 52 and it's the first time I've really, truly accepted it). Here is what I wrote:
"Dear Diana, I am so curious about something you mentioned in the video with Eva-Maria Zurhorst about how your body has changed over the years from practicing tantra and tapping into your divine feminine. My beloved and I have been practicing for about 2-1/2 years now and amazingly enough, my body has changed somewhat dramatically. I’ve always been tall and thin
and somewhat “busty,” but now my breasts are so much larger than they have ever been! I’m just curvier overall although my thighs have gotten smaller. Also, my hair has grown longer and thicker and I find myself wanting to present myself to the world in a much more feminine manner (I will wear a bit of a heel with jeans, etc., something I would never have done in the past).
I was married previously for over 20 years and we did not have a sexually loving relationship, although we loved each other immensely as friends, mostly. Over the years of being married and not being loved (or giving love) as a woman, I found myself starting to slowly become less feminine in my looks and my attire. I was almost embarrassed to show my femininity and would wear loose shirts, etc., to hide my breasts (I didn’t like them!). Now I wear form-fitting clothes and show off my curves to the world. I’m just wondering if this was also your experience and is this common? I have brought my breasts into the center of my lovemaking and it has made all the difference in the world. I feel like such a voluptuous woman now and this is the way I’ve always dreamed of making
love. I’ve never been happier!
Anyway, thank you so much for all of your teachings (I have all of your books and just keep constantly reading them in a rotation)~~you have changed my life forever for the better!"
And here is how she responded:
A joy to receive your message, so many thanks for writing. So interesting to read about your bodily changes/attitude/feelings of femininity, and these certainly bear testament to how sincerely you have integrated 'my' approach into your way of being.
Beautiful to experience how true femininity is a byproduct of changing of our sexual ways, compliments to you and your beloved.
Quite some women do notice similar changes, although not all such a noticeable breast enlargement! In my case they have retained their 'nubility' or 'nubile-ness' (if there are such words!) and with me rising sixty they continue to be radiant and sweet! For me a visible integration and balancing between upper and lower body took place, plus some changes in the legs, and now that you mention about the hair, that is so interesting, coz i never thought about it. i started this sexual approach in my early thirties after a couple of years living in India....I was in India for ten years all in all, and i always put my hair growth down to my hair being happy to be in india
- after all look at the indian women's hair!!! I always had longish mid-back hair since a girl, but then it just took off and has continued to do so, and now i cut it twice a year and 'keep it short' level with my bum, if i did not do this it would for sure go way below my knees.
So thrilled to hear that you are so happy with your life and lovemaking, that your dreams have come true! all the best to you dear, thank you again also for your Kelly input in the Tantric Love Letters book,and nice to hear that you find there is value in reading the books again and again.
Best wishes, and much love to you and your beloved each day,
Since writing her, I have also finished reading her newest book, "Tantric Love Letters," (she used my writing on pages 22-24; thanks for arranging that, Marnia!)~~and I was excited to see these words on page 184:
"As you begin to make love in a new way, as suggested in my book, your body will also start to change. And it does not matter that you are fifty-four. Great changes are still possible at any age, the body is always totally read to cooperate with your awareness. Breasts grow, thighs slim down, a unity exists in the body, a quality of serenity arises, movement becomes graceful, all as reflections of self-love and inner beauty. I wish you the courage to trust in your inner world, and the readiness to take steps into the unknown. Doing so will increase your joy and zest for life, which in turn will make you feel youthful and uplifted and empowered."
And when I read this, I said "Yes!"! That is how I feel~~very powerful, very feminine, very beautiful, very peaceful. When I walk out into the world I am aware of my inner divine feminine being and am not ashamed of it *nor* trying to exploit it~~it's just the way I am and it feels natural and good. I think the reason I feel so empowered is because this feeling belongs to *me*...it comes from inside and I have it within me as I travel through life~~no one can take it away from me. As important as I feel it is to have the masculine balance which you receive from a man through lovemaking, a woman also needs to give back the feminine energy and this is how you cultivate it.
And then, coincidentally (not really, as I don't believe in coincidences!), I was flipping through her "Tantric Orgasm for Women" book and saw these words that I had marked a couple of years ago (not knowing what was in store for me):
"A woman might question whether encouraging a man to lust after her perfect breasts really serves her orgasmic potential in the long run. When a woman loves her own breasts and allows a man to love her breasts, they respond to the positive attention. Many women report an increase in breast size after they begin to make love according to female and male polarity~~through bringing the breasts into their rightful magnetic alignment."
Now when we make love, I feel it *through* my breasts and my vagina responds in such a way that gives a full "yes" to my lover. Also, he can touch them and feel the energy pulse through his penis. Many times after lovemaking, he will lie on top of me with his head between my breasts and there is such a feeling of coming home and being loved (for both of us).
As Diana says, it's never too late to rediscover your body and its potential~~and I say it's better late than never!