Your Church on Porn, Part III

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It begins.

As I noted in a previous post, a friend and I are in the beginning stages of working up a series on porn addiction and recovery specifically tailored to a group of HS age kids at the church. Our vision is to develop the program and bring it to the adults of the church eventually.

Tonight I went down and helped out with the class. The friend and I talked with the group about what we wee planning to do. It's a small group, but it's a start. The friend had a bunch of porn facts and statistics and he read those off. I spoke multiple times and made sure that the kids knew that we were not there to judge. I told them a couple of times that I was interested in approaching it from a biological perspective so that they can learn how porn is affecting their brains and bodies. Also, approaching it from that perspective would give them ways to deal with it and move forward and away from the addiction.

At one point, the friend asked the question, "Who here has used porn?" EVERYONE raised their hands. It was a small group, like I said, but still, EVERY PERSON raised their hand. Aside from that question, the kids are clearly open to talking about it. They all had guilty looks on their faces, it was clear that they were all struggling with it. At the next meeting I'm going to talk about guilt and how they need to put guilt aside because it's a poor motivator.

Tonight was basically an introduction of sorts. The buddy and I are going to meet soon and start work on developing the series. Hopefully we will be able to start it up at the next class.

Really excited about this whole thing. I still want any input that you folks think might be useful.

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Did they know the subject in advance?

Or was it just the usual high school age group?

Sounds like you're doing a great job. Just creating a safe place where kids can ask questions and learn more about their brains is really helpful.

I hope you keep us posted on what you teach. We're always interested in learning what works best in helping people understand this challenge.

I think it might be good to show them the short Zimbardo clip so they understand what's at stake. The Internet itself is a challenge, whether it's porn, gaming, FB or some combo. http://yourbrainonporn.com/philip-zimbardo-the-demise-of-guys-2011

They did not know what the

They did not know what the subject of the class was before we started. This is the same group I was referring to in my last post.

Thank you for the link. I will certainly keep everyone posted on this.

Tell stories

It is all about stories not statistics,  use rebooting accounts and be very graphic detailed and unsparing in clarity and language and this will be the best class these kids ever took or will take.

I'm glad you commented with

I'm glad you commented with that. I was planning to kind of "take the edge off" of the language to "clean it up" for the church environment. Now that you mention that, I'm starting to think it's a good idea to go full bore with no holds barred. My concern is that some of the kids are on the young side, 9th grade range, and thus the language is too mature for them. On the other hand, they've ALL seen vaginas and boobs all over the internet and probably know filthier language than I do. It's sad but it's the world that they have to live in.

Thank you for your comment, it was a massive help.