Book - The Brain That Changes Itself

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Such an amazing book! I'm having a hard time putting it down. Just amazing what the brain can do against incredible odds. I love stories of people who beat the odds. My motto has been "don't believe in can't" and it's been rare that doubt ever creeps in, at least in myself and only if I make up my mind towards a goal.

I find the mind and brain absolutely fascinating and this book is going to change my views quite a bit. I've already felt that there are vast untapped potentials within all of us. I want to expand on what I learn from this book by "experimenting" on my own.

Back not too long ago, I saw a 60 Minutes show on a boy who was a genius at math and going to college (Indianapolis). He's somewhat autistic if I remember right. I used to work with autistic adults and children (I was a teen working as an aid). Some were called idiot savants and they were amazing with the way they were able to calculate or remember every birthday they ever were told or know exactly what day of the week any date was. I've always wondered how such abilities were triggered. But now I wonder if it's possible to "learn" to become more savant. Being that our brain is so plastic, so malleable, can we believe ourselves smarter and then practice in that direction like the book talks about?

Believe and you will become, right? Well, that and unwavering effort.



It's sad

it was actually difficult reading some of the things in that chapter. It's sad that not more people know what is happening to our brains when indulging in certain activities. I think eventually there will be more movement to expose the hidden dangers.

But on a better note, I do believe whole-heartedly in the power of the mind to reverse unwanted habits, disabilities, etc. as long as there is a real desire to change (whether the desire comes from within or from help of others).

What I find interesting is that I've heard that it takes 3 weeks to a month to change a habit. It must be that it takes that long for an adult brain to solidify new pathways and for old ones to disintegrate. This means you really have to be diligent about those new habits you want and not even to allow yourself to think about old habits. I'm at the end of week 4 of starting karezza ways of thinking. The first 2 weeks I experimented with getting too close to O but backed completely off the last 2 weeks (with one O two weeks in). I was very wary to keep my mind from thinking certain old thoughts about love-making and steered clear of fantasies. I replaced old thoughts by learning as much as I could about karezza by reading CPA and a couple Diane Richardson's books as well as physically and mentally "practicing" karezza. I noticed in this past week that nearly all desires of orgasms have vanished though sexual desires of a much more mellow type remains. The change in my mind seems astonishingly different and I feel like a different person.

I think just quitting something isn't really the fastest way to change. I think doing something else new and rewarding (and good for you) helps to speed "quitting" something else because learning increases plasticity of the brain. Even when it comes to grief, you can sit around for years grieving or you can work to change your thinking and work towards shortening the time. After my dog died this past January, I had a really hard time with the grief. Strangely enough, working on karezza helped me immensely and I think it's mostly because of the oxytocin helping me forget past pains and dopamine helping my mind change faster. I still miss my dog but it's just not gut-wrenchingly painful.


Sometimes going through motions can get folks going and sometimes it can't. I'm not sure where karezza lies. It seems at least one partner has to be working on a karezza mindset because we're all stuck trying to undo the other mindsets we have acquired.

Good point

And it's also true that going through the motions does seem to gradually shift perception. But TT makes a good point about the possibility of accelerating the process.


"Attaining karezza mindset", "Shifting into karezza mindset", "How to shift into karezza mindset". I think accelerating the process also involves other things too. If you do things that lower dopamine levels, it's much harder to change. I pay great attention to anything that might mess up my dopamine levels. Basically, if it's addictive, I do very little (like sugar) or none at all (like alcohol, cigarettes, etc). Learning seems to be beneficial so, now that I know that, I've decided to push studies like I want to see if I can gain a "musical ear" and bone up on a second language. I also bought some brain-exercising books.

I used to immerse myself in whatever I'm researching or want to learn but I think I'm going to try some of the suggestions in the book about slowing down because you re-write brain pathways whether you do something right or not, so the more you are doing something correctly, in a sense, the faster you learn and the more fun it is.