I O'd, I O'd, now it's off to work I go!

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If you didn't get that title, it's a parody off of Snow White and the Seven Dwarves (Hi ho, hi ho).

Yes, Riker did work yesterday and I did other things too. It's like we are playing catch-up with our lives outside of each other but he put in a lot of effort to show me his love and appreciation when we saw each other again. He told me how beautiful I was many times and he actually meant it. It's not the hungry attraction of sexual magnetism that he is seeing with. He's being very sweet and really wants to move away from the sexual focus to the heart focus. In fact, he resisted O yesterday with a sense of determination.

Post O for me, I still love Riker very much and when I look at him, he is very endearing to me. But there is less feeling of adoration and attention towards him. I noticed when I was in bliss from no O, I couldn't take my eyes off of his face, staring with stars in my eyes in rapt attention. After O, I would look into his eyes and feel the the loving draw, but then get uncomfortable and break eye contact. Riker says he doesn't notice much change but some distancing from me. He told me that he just focuses on showing me his love while being watchful of my needs for space. He really has done a great job with me in that respect - he doesn't push himself on me but rather stands still before me in a non-invasive way radiating his love and waiting patiently.

Physical problems arose again for me because of the prolactin increase, I believe. My heart palpitations, extreme fatigue, chest congestion, weight gain (a pound and a half up this morning even after eating very little food yesterday), calves swelling, etc. all came back but not to the extreme level as before I started this program. There are other reasons why I'm getting better too besides just the decrease in prolactin, but I think prolactin plays a huge role. Maybe cortisol too but I'm not sure. I wonder how much cortisol is released from an orgasm versus, let's say, chronic low level stress. And how quickly does cortisol levels lower in the body as compared to prolactin? The body is such a complex puzzle. I wonder how many people are affected the way I am. For me, the best prescription is karezza.

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Timetraveler wrote:

[quote=Timetraveler]Post O for me, I still love Riker very much and when I look at him, he is very endearing to me. But there is less feeling of adoration and attention towards him. I noticed when I was in bliss from no O, I couldn't take my eyes off of his face, staring with stars in my eyes in rapt attention. After O, I would look into his eyes and feel the the loving draw, but then get uncomfortable and break eye contact. [/quote]

 

that's how it is for me. I haven't O'd for at least 4 months but when we do something really edgy for a few days in a row, which I try not to do anymore, it's the same thing. My adoration of my beloved declines a bit for a few days. The other times I can't keep my eyes off her. After several decades of marriage. It's the MOST amazing feeling for me. And I want to keep that all the time which I largely do.

while its true that orgasm

affects us all differently, I've never corelated the twice daily prolactin surges with physical symptoms. We think prolactin surges may affect dopamine and perceptions.

A few studies that have measured cortisol levels during sexual excitement and around orgasm, They found little effect. None measured it beyond the sexual cycle.

We point to a few neurochemical changes associated with orgasm that have been studied. No doubt that many more occur that no one knows a thing about.