Hello all... Mr. tornfromabook here. Thought I would update on where my wife and I are at, especially since there has been a lot of growth lately.
So it seems to me that the goal of most people here (and us, when we first came here) was to find out how to make monogamous relationships easier and more enjoyable, by reversing the cultural and physiological programming so many of us adopted.
I posted last about discovering a lot of shame surrounding my sexuality. I posted during "crisis mode" when I was feeling very down and desperate... after talking and exploring my feelings further, I found it easier to let go of my guilt and shame surrounding sex. I called my sister and we talked about it, about what we felt growing up.
I'm going to try and make a very long story very short.
While Karezza has allowed my husband and I to enjoy sex without goals and expectations, and appreciate sex as something pure, honest, and loving... there is still something missing from the picture. Karezza brings you closer mentally and emotionally, and some of that is expressed through the body, but it's not the same as really OWNING your sexuality and being present in your body.
Hello everyone, it has been a while. I haven't even been reading anything here for the past two months or so!
I'm experiencing something interesting while nursing my baby... it's called D-MER (dysphoric milk ejection reflex). Every time I have a milk letdown, which is triggered by rising levels of oxytocin, I have a dopamine crash.
Mrs. Torn here...
Our little boy is now 12 days old. I have been experiencing an extreme amount of hormonal changes in this time, and my husband has been along for the ride as well! The birth itself was... incredible. I gave birth at home, 100% naturally, on our bed. The intensity was incredible but I'd say pain was only about 15% of the total experience... the rest was this wild trip, much like being on mushrooms or something similar, in which time did not exist and all was made of vibrating, golden energy. Simply divine.
Woke up at 5am with my water breaking... I'm only 37.5 weeks but I guess that's all the cooking time he wanted! Wish us luck. Don't know how often we will be posting here for a while, seeing as we're not supposed to have sex for at least 6 weeks after the birth (and most women need more time than that). Though we are curious to see how all the new tools we have learned will fit in with taking care of a new baby and my post partum healing.... we are anticipating it will be very useful that we have learned to make love without movement or even penetration. :)
As I mentioned before on this blog, my husband and I are about to have our first child (a son) at the end of next month. We both feel really strongly that we want to have an open attitude about sexuality as parents, but we have no role models in how to do this!