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Week 15

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Start by doing what's necessary, then what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible. (Saint Francis of Assisi 1181-1286)

The theme this week is Practice. Not work in the day job sense, but having gained a grasp of the basics, it is now just time for us to do the work.

Week 14

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[Developing] natural abdominal breathing...will have a wonderful effect on all the organs in your abdominal cavity as they begin to benefit from regular, internal massage. (Chuen,L 1991:65)

Its a week of sex on the down slope of her monthly cycle, and equally her post O. But the main highlight of the week is my establishing qigong practise. So the theme is clear-cut. Breath.

Week 13

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When the four limbs are aligned,
And the blood and qi are tranquil,
Unify your intent and concentrate your mind.
Then your ears and eyes will not be swayed by lust;
What seemed far away [the Tao] will be close by. (350BC)

Week 13 brings a deepening of our karezza exploration and cultivation, and also my qigong practise. But as both our post O day counts are pretty low, its still a wild enough ride. But somehow beyond all the sex, and the emotions, i find the theme of the week to be New strength. The potential of breathing, body awareness, and sexual harmony and vitality are gingerly but surely in my grasp, for the first time in my life.

Week 12

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For the woman, the focal area for healing is located deep at the top of the vagina...This is her garden of love, the place where she will first know true ecstasy in sex....Incredibly the head of the penis acts like a highly sensitive magnet entering the energy field of the feminine pole [and] has a dramatic effect on the accumulated vaginal tensions. Richardson,D (2003:122-123)

The theme for the week is unabashedly Intention. We've had what seems a major breakthrough this week, with practise comes learning and growth. Intention is the key that eventually unlocks the door.

Week 11

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Ordinary sexual intercourse...is properly to be classed with masturbation (Noyes, J 1872:14)

Reach out to your partner and place your relaxed hands on their positive pole. Channel your love and warmth through your hands into them while allowing the eyes to meet...[This is] very important as it sets the stage for the interplay of polarity once penetration occurs. When the positive poles are alive to each other...an incredible interchange of energy is possible. Lovemaking can become increasingly dynamic, the bodies twisting and turning around and into each other for hours, as if possessed by life itself. (Henderson, D 2003:102)

This week my call on the theme is Stuckness. We are not having a particularly easy reunion. Lots of emotion and the potential for healing, but also a resistance to responsibility, and the resulting unrealised aspirations.

It feels like we are trying to find our way home, but we are like two lost tourists wandering around a foreign city. The tantalising THOTS (The Heart of Tantric Sex) quote draws us on. I'm not much of a one to ask for help, but if anyone has any insight or suggestions for us, im open and grateful for it.

Week 9 & 10

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I haven't posted or written for two weeks. Several things i guess, one there was little to write about. Two i really needed to focus on much neglected work. But the real kicker was that it just hurt too much to think about sexuality with her being away. Tuning the whole thing out, made it easier. Or so i thought.

Week 8

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Feeling humiliated in the eyes of his wife, he is in search of a psychologist who will place the entire blame for their lack of sexual satisfaction on her frigidity. Usually a man of this sort does not even know what he is missing. With the pleasure of his ejaculation he reaches his desired goal, forfeiting that part of the sex experience which produces the greatest rapture and happiness... An emotionally immature man will only increase his wife's frigidity with every sex union. (Von Urban 1949:15-16)

Week 8 is kind of a new start, and i'm using the time to read and learn, hopefully becoming a more emotionally mature man in the process. Hence the theme for week 8 is Education. Not much else to do i suppose.

Week 7

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Kiss and snuggle as long as you like... Move into either the scissors or bridge position... Unite genitals... Visualise the sexual energy flowing between you... For at least fifteen minutes, try not to change positions or move... Relax totally. (Robinson,M 2009:340)

Week 7 is the week we finally get it together, and lose our Karezza virginity for real. Among the reasons for taking this long were our head colds, at least our fair share of emotional journeying, and a certain cognitive lack. In other words we had no real idea what we were doing.

Week 7 contains both breakthrough, and, ironically relapse. But while it's a week of extremes, again duh, for me its about Progress.

Week 6

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'Intimacy can seem scary when intimacy *has been scary*' - Marnia.

The theme for this week is harder to call. My first picks were dissonance and turmoil. For the former, its been a week where what i think know and feel all seemed so much at odds, and for the latter feeling bruised and beaten by a week of ups and downs. It has however been a good deal more up than down, even if the relapses were indeed deep. For that reason im going to go tentatively with Buoyancy. Imagine being pulled down to the depths but always popping quickly back to the surface.

Week 5

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'Alea iacta est, The die is now cast'- Julius Caesar 49 BC as he crossed the River Rubicon

The theme for this week is transition. When Caesar ummed and ahhed then finally decided to cross the rubicon, life was never to be same again. He was about to wage war against the entrenched ruling interests of the old rome. That's kind of how im feeling this week, battling against my old self.

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