Day 11 What to replace porn with...?

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So today is my 11th day without porn or masturbation. The urges have started to come on but nothing has taken hold yet, although they seem to be getting stronger. I have found since I have cut PMO out of my life, I am extremely bored and lonely and I have a big empty space in my life where porn took place for so long, I didn't realize how much time PMO took up until I stopped it. I also realized that what PMO was actually doing was filling the space of my loneliness, I think the hardest part of this re-boot is dealing with the loneliness that I have been covering up for so long, I look around me and I don't have any close friends. I have found that most the time I just want to sleep, but even my sleep has been affected...

Now I need some advice...
What activities can I do to fill this space that PMO took up? What are some activities that would help me move further away from PMO, and into a wonderful life filled with love, friendship, and discipline..?

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Keep it up

I recognize the feeling brother! The emptiness that PMO actually leave behind is both terrifying and intriguing at the same time.

How about learning something new. I'm on day 8 and are very interested in music. Hence I play the guitar. I've never played in a jazzy way before because its very technical, hard and not my preferred music style and that terrifies me. Anyhow, I figured since I feels like shit anyhow I just might give jazz a shot on my les paul! And what do you now I've been doing for a couple of hours now and I'm making progress!

My point being, pick up something that you always wanted to try out and do!

Stay strong!

Thanks brother! I am a

Thanks brother! I am a musician as well and I found that during this tough time, I have been healing through my acoustic guitar, to where I usually spend most my time on electric. I am thinking of volunteering somewhere, but the though of meeting strangers at this time is pretty overwhelming! Thanks for the support!

Reading, writing

For me reading and writing works. Ive never bought so many books. I write a detailed journal, and its only when i stop writing that i relapse.

But then im an introvert. I should get out more.

things i did were...

Started working out consistently; I lift 3-4 times a week and play basketball at least once

Reading; I used to never read for fun, but I have picked up reading crime fiction. I go through 2-3 books a week.

Meditating; This was the hardest thing to buy into. Just 10 mins 2-3 times a day. over the course of 1-2 months youll start to see differences. These changes really are tangible, they are based on science, not placebo or a bunch of spiritual bs

For me, doing some of these things werent easy to start of with because I liked PMOing so much, but after you start to drift further and further away from porn, you'll start to enjoy doing your new activities more and more. It may sound like your forcing yourself to like new things, but really its just that your brain needs to recalibrate itself back to normal for you to like things other than porn.

There are countless activities out there, you just gotta find things you enjoy doing that arent related to sex.

I'm a huge fan of dance

you can take lessons several nights a week or on a weekend. You can go to dance clubs. Even if you don't have a partner. I've seen around here that many more girls than guys go. A lot of it is line dancing but salsa and ball room are better as they are partner dancing and you can dance with different girls. Very cool and part of the formula hopefully for finding replacements for PMO. Good luck, this is a great question and one that deserves a lot of thought and a process of taking action that might stretch over a few months and transform your life.