Day 13 no PMO or MO (A new girlfriend)

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So it has been 13 days since PMO or MO. In this time I have started a new relationship with a girl and have mixed feelings about it, actually it is a whirlwind of feelings. This new girl I am seeing messaged me on an online dating site about a month ago, and we had sex our 2nd time of hanging out which caused the chaser effect that was a big factor in my last PMO relapse. Now spending time with her this last weekend, we decided that we wanted to start a relationship and had sex 8 times in 72 hours. The good news is that I was able to have sex 3 times a day and be rock hard the whole time, which is definitely new for me! My sex drive is just like it was before PMO took over my life so I can tell that my chemistry is being put back together!

One thing that worries me about our relationship is that she goes to school about 4 hours away from me, so this is the first long distance relationship I have ever had, and I am the first boyfriend she has ever had. She left yesterday and the chaser effect is back after awakening the sexual feelings again. I feel myself wanting to pull away from the relationship now, and I dont know if it is apart of the chaser effect or if I am just not ready to be in a relationship (I got out of a serious year long relationship about 2 months ago), or if I am just freaking out because my sexual tendencies are just going crazy!

Anyways, I am just going to try my best to ride this thing out...


Cold water is your friend right now

Cold water technique

If you're asking for advice, I would say, "Make no decisions about your relationship for two weeks." Let your brain get back to balance before you decide anything. Just be friendly and keep in touch, and let yourself recover.

You've read this, right? Men: Does Frequent Ejaculation Cause a Hangover?

Even when you're back to normal, there's such a thing as too much. Wink Particularly when you don't see each other every day.

Rats take two weeks to return to full studliness after exhausting their sexual desire. Give yourself time. Those cravings are not true libido. They are indeed "chaser."

Also remember all the things that helped you during the reboot: exercise, meditation, good diet, etc.

And...a big congratulations to you for getting your mojo back! Even if you over did it, your hard work paid off.

Now...easy does it so you don't binge. Just stay with the discomfort and ease it with exercise, time in nature, socializing, distraction, etc. It will pass.