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Dealing with 2 years of Singledom, w/avoidance of Orgasm.

Submitted by whitedeer on

Hi everyone! I am a long time lurker at this site, and have read Marnia's fantastic Cupid's poisoned arrow book. I don't intend to come here to moan about being single. Because my last relationship was emotionally traumatic, it has taken me some time to begin to heal. I think I am finally coming back to "myself" after 1.5yrs of feeling I had lost my soul when it ended with my ex.

Gail Dines

Submitted by whitedeer on

I assume you've all seen Gaile's information: but here it is in case you haven't. I thought her talk was really relevant.

Her TedX talk titled "Growing Up in a Pornified Culture | Gail Dines | TEDxNavesink"


Gail's website here:

She describes herself as part of the only anti-porn feminist group in the country.

This is so sad. And so true.


Submitted by whitedeer on

This may be slightly off topic but I've been wondering about it for a while and wondered if anyone else had input.

I see how I am affected in short term and longer-term ways by orgasm and higher-heat sex. I literally get sick. It's not a fun thing to re-experience over and over to learn the lesson!

One thing I have been seriously wondering about, is how a person can tell the difference between post orgasm symptoms in a partner and intentional manipulation if the partner has a personality disorder like sociopathy?

Where to start..

Submitted by whitedeer on

I don't really know where to start here. Apologies if this is disorganized.

I've been aware of karezza/ post orgasm principles thanks to stumbling across this amazing website a couple of years ago. I've been in my current relationship for three years.