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Dealing with 2 years of Singledom, w/avoidance of Orgasm.

Submitted by whitedeer on

Hi everyone! I am a long time lurker at this site, and have read Marnia's fantastic Cupid's poisoned arrow book. I don't intend to come here to moan about being single. Because my last relationship was emotionally traumatic, it has taken me some time to begin to heal. I think I am finally coming back to "myself" after 1.5yrs of feeling I had lost my soul when it ended with my ex.

Gail Dines

Submitted by whitedeer on

I assume you've all seen Gaile's information: but here it is in case you haven't. I thought her talk was really relevant.

Her TedX talk titled "Growing Up in a Pornified Culture | Gail Dines | TEDxNavesink"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_YpHNImNsx8&vl=en

Gail's website here:
http://www.culturereframed.org

She describes herself as part of the only anti-porn feminist group in the country.

This is so sad. And so true.

Sociopaths?

Submitted by whitedeer on

This may be slightly off topic but I've been wondering about it for a while and wondered if anyone else had input.

I see how I am affected in short term and longer-term ways by orgasm and higher-heat sex. I literally get sick. It's not a fun thing to re-experience over and over to learn the lesson!

One thing I have been seriously wondering about, is how a person can tell the difference between post orgasm symptoms in a partner and intentional manipulation if the partner has a personality disorder like sociopathy?

Where to start..

Submitted by whitedeer on

I don't really know where to start here. Apologies if this is disorganized.

I've been aware of karezza/ post orgasm principles thanks to stumbling across this amazing website a couple of years ago. I've been in my current relationship for three years.