I am a firm believer in this site and in the fact that internet porn is sexually unhealthy for many people, especially men. I have recently talked to a woman I know who's fiance has lost interest in her entirely because of his porn addiction. I told her about YBOP and desensitization, dopamine, novelty and other general concepts. It felt good to spread the word.
Hello everyone! I have been off of the rebalancing site for quite a while. No big reason, just loving life and, of course, sex! Just checking back in to assure you all that you are on the right path. I have been dating the same girl for 10 months now. The sex has been mind-blowing and it continues to get better every day. If someone asked me what my secret to rock-hard reliable erections was I would simply tell them that it has been well over a year sinse I have viewed porn and basically 10 months since I have masturbated.
Hello everyone. This is my first karezza blog. A brief background on me first. I originally came to this site via the porn addiction route, so I have been involved in the rebalancing/rebooting section. I was a heavy porn user/ overmasturbater and had all of the associated problems. I went through a long reboot process (over 150 days) and have basically transformed my sexuality. I have been dating this girl for about 5 months now and the sex has been fantastic.
A brief update: I have been dating this girl now for about 5 months and things are going incredibly well. She lives about 2.5 hours away and we have been seeing eachother in 3 to 6 day groupings about twice a month. So far, these meetings have been filled with bonding, fun, and fantastic and frequent sex. However, I have noticed some changes on our last visit. She came up to see me and I had just finished up a really rough 2 weeks on night shift.
5 days with Girlfriend. Tons of sex. Both more than satisfied. 150 + days into reboot (really lost count). No PMO (especially no P and, for me, little to no fantasy) works. Just give it time and don't put any undue pressure on yourself.
So its been about 2 weeks since my last sex, which was the first time since the reboot began. It will be about a week until I see my girlfriend. I have been abstaining from fantasy to the best of my ability and the results have been nightly and morning erections every day without exception. Occasional spontaneous erections during the day have occured as well. I have been having a lot of wet dreams (Like 4 this week). One caused me to ejacuate, which left me feeling a bit drained the next day, but I bounced back.
Anyone, please feel free to thow in/debate me on this. Anyone who has followed my history knows that as I continually go through the reboot rebalance process, I am always coming up with theories as to why things may work the way they do. My current theory is that it is that, ironically, high levels of T might actually be more destructive to the libido in certain environments and situations than low T. Here is one fact that i will not debate, excessive fantasizing is just as detrimental to the sensitivity of the reward center as internet porn for some people.
So I don't know how long its been total. I believe its been about 8 or 9 months since I began the reboot process. Had sex for the first time since the beginning two days ago. I had recently re-rebooted with one month of no PMO and as little fantasy as possible. The only problem with this was I think my sensitivity was so high that it caused me to PE. Basically what happened was we were making out and I started to take her clothes off. The mere sight of her in her lengerie was driving me crazy. I began foreplay and within about 5 minutes I had soiled myself. OOPS!
So I rebooted a while back. Started MOing again and unfortunately let it get a little out of hand. I noticed that my renewed libido had taken a serious dip as a result of fantasizing and edging. So I decided to reboot again. I am in a semi-long distance relationship and I will see my girlfriend on the 27th of this month. Heres the progress so far:
As I have predicted, I am recovering from my relapse into excessive fantasizing/edging/MO much more rapidly than I would have before the reboot. This morning was the morning of the second day of no PMOF (O two days ago) and I woke with a full erection that lasted for close to an hour. It was my day off and I really needed to sleep so I had to wait for it to go away before I could dose off again. I successfully resisted the urge to stroke, hump the pillow, etc. And I was able to keep the fantasy to a minimum. Felt a little drained of libido during the day though.