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Hello everyone! I have been off of the rebalancing site for quite a while. No big reason, just loving life and, of course, sex! Just checking back in to assure you all that you are on the right path. I have been dating the same girl for 10 months now. The sex has been mind-blowing and it continues to get better every day. If someone asked me what my secret to rock-hard reliable erections was I would simply tell them that it has been well over a year sinse I have viewed porn and basically 10 months since I have masturbated. I am almost 32 years old and I continually wear-out my 21 year old, track athelete, girlfriend in bed. I can make her cum vaginaly, which is something I used to have a lot of trouble with because I could rarely last long enough. We still don't live together officially yet. She stays with me usually in 3 to 7-day strethes. During these visits, we usually end up having sex somewhere between 3 and 6 times a day. I have taken a, kind of hybrid approach to karrezza, mixing non-orgasmic sexual activities into the orgasmic sex routine. As good as the sex is, I am still succeptible to the coolidge effect and the allure of novelty. I have become attuned to my body and mind well enough to sense when my desire is diminishing. Luckily, though this usually means my erection might take a little more coersion than usual, these are the times when I can last forever in bed and really make her cum like crazy while preventing myself from cumming. I have many times experienced ejaculation without loss of erection and being able to go right back into sex after cleanup. I can literally last for hours. Please note that I am not trying to brag. I am simply trying to reassure all of you that NO PMO WORKS!! I was probably as bad off as any of you. There were times that I wondered if I would ever get it up with a woman again. Preformance anxiety, vascular blockage, penis pills, testosterone levels..BULLSHIT!! Years of internet porn and excessive masturbation are the culprits, period. If I knew that sex could be this good back in those days I would have thrown my computer out the window! Anyhow, if anyone needs some advice or just wants to chat with someone who has been through the fire and come out the other side, I'll be checking the forum more regularly for a while. Gary and Marnia are absolutly right about this stuff. Good luck and stay srong!

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very cool to hear

I love hearing about your wonderful success. Congratulations and thanks for coming here and spreading the word. No PMO certainly does work. It's a shame that so many guys don't get this message and don't know that porn can be hurting them.

Thanks man! Great pic LOL!!

Thanks man! Great pic LOL!! Yeah its really a shame that more guys don't know about this. I think a lot of it is the media continuing to convince them that their problem has something to do with their age or T level, or fitness level and that they need to take the latest pill. Lets face it, theres not much money to be made by selling NO PMO pills.

Definitely. We are both down

Definitely. We are both down with non-orgasmic play and intercourse. Its just that 9 times out of 10 we end up climaxing. Its me more often than her I must admit. However, I am usually ready to go again in another 5 to 10 minutes and seem to last longer each time. I have noticed, though, how a karezza session can charge us both up. Its very revitalizing! Anyhow, long story short, I'm happy and in love and things are going awesome! I don't even think about looking at porn anymore. I don't masturbate either. I'm not trying to say masturbation is inherently wrong or unhealthy, but it just doesn't seem to fit the picture for me at this point. Even though I spend weeks away from my girlfriend at a time. I just wait until I see her for my next sexual release. LOL I usually don't last very long the first time after a long stretch of absence and abstinence. But I'm usually right back in the game in a matter of minutes :) Anyway, hope you and Gary are well!

An open mind

is the most important ingredient. Besides, karezza's tough when you're apart for weeks.

Yes, we're well. Gary starts a little local radio show tomorrow morning. We'll post the archives of it so others can check it out and spread the word. It's called, "Your Brain in the Cybersex Jungle." We'll have to shake the bugs out for a bit, but it should be a good way to explain things to guys whose concentration is shot from the addiction because they won't have to read a lot to get the scoop.

Link: http://yourbrainonporn.com/node/1090

Thats great! I watched the

Thats great! I watched the video on Cybersex Jungle. I am proud to be a part of the newly produced "control group".. :) Will there be any audio recordings posted for the radio show? Or will there be any way that non-locals can access it?

Excellent stuff!

I'm in the midst of my own porn recovery journey again (will post about that after I write to you here) and reading your post inspired me to to post again as well.

I am so happy for you and it is amazing, absolutely amazing that you have gone OVER A YEAR without looking at Porn....you are an inspiration!

Hopefully your 21 year girlfriend can handle you!!! Wink

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Living in the past can lead to depression and living in the future can lead to anxiety but living in the PRESENT can lead to PEACE.

Thanks! Good quote by the

Thanks! Good quote by the way. Staying "present" is one of the best ways to handle the stress of recovery. I know that when I say "over a year", it probably sounds a bit overwhelming to you at this point, but, believe you me, if you keep staying away from porn, you will find that the rewards become so great that your temptation to relapse will be far outweighed by the joy's of being porn free. It won't be so tempting then. I still think about it from time to time. Like when you open up youtube and there are all those random thumbnails and usually a few of them show scantily clad babes. But then I just remember how much better the sex that I have with my girlfriend is than looking at porn ever was, and I quickly loose my interest.

I know I know

..I did 117 days before a relapse earlier this year and around 165 before I fully relapsed (ironically it was while I had started going out with what became my now ex-girlfriend).

It's all about the present you're right and I have to remind myself of what I am aiming for here when I go into youtube like you say.

This time has felt much harder (on Day 10 of Reboot #2) than last time but I still have the determination.

Dean 'Metalhead...hopefully an XPornHead as well soon' :D

Good luck! One thing that

Good luck! One thing that made a huge difference for me was also giving up TV altogether until I felt comfortable with that level of stimulation. Id say TV was out of the picture for a good 3 months. There was a point in my recovery where I would wake up with morning erections every morning, except (and I mean this with frightening consistency) when I watched a bunch of TV the night before. Just another random tidbit.