I have just read Cupid's Poisoned Arrow, and now I have an interesting question to all those people who are in a relationship (hence posting in partner section).
I have never actually been in a relationship, but I have been looking for a girlfriend for a very long time. Now, having read the book, I'm wondering if I have been wasting my time and energy in this desperate search for a partner. Do you really get something out of a relationship that makes it worth all the pain, suffering, countless compromises and having to do something like karezza to preserve harmony and make it last?
A few years ago I started occasionally paying for sex. Before that I was a very miserable and depressed man (and a virgin). Being able to have sex has made me happier, but I have still been trying to find a girlfriend because I have assumed that I'm missing out on something really big. But now I'm thinking that maybe I'm actually happier than people who are in a relationship.
Please tell me, is there something so valuable and important that you gain from having a girlfriend/boyfriend that you are happy to accept all the negative effects that come with it? I understand the situation is different if people have children or want to have children in the future. But assuming that you didn't want any children, and you had some outlet for the worst sexual urges, then do you think it would be better to just be alone?