♥Karezza challenges

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I've written in the past about some great experiences with karezza. I've run into my first challenges with it and figured full disclosure is important. Hopefully sharing my experience will allow others to share their challenges or open a new dialog.

Karezza has been awesome for my wife and I, I've written about that before. I've also written about living in the moment as part of karezza. That came back to bite us.

My wife and I noticed how much we were in the moment. Our bodies felt every touch and every move. Things that wouldn't have excited us in the past have now become pretty intense. Add to that our new openness and we are very relaxed and never thinking about "performing".

The trap came when it just felt too good and old habits returned. You know where this is going to end up. There is a point of no return in the feelings and when they are so enjoyable and the connection is so intense, an orgasm is right around the corner.

After this happened a couple of weeks ago, I talked to my wife and we put a stop to it. She was really enjoying intercourse and exciting me, it made her glow. After the second time, we backed way off on karezza and went back to the beginning to take things slower.

I'll admit to really being challenged by this. I sure wasn't excited to go through the 14 day cycle, nor did I want to wake up the chaser effect (and I noticed I suddenly became more interested in certain pictures or my eyes roamed more in public). But I also loved the connection we made and the intensity my body felt. I literally felt 20 years younger and like I was falling in love all over again. Really hard to describe the place we made it to.

So I have a new challenge now with karezza. It has heightened my senses and brought us very close together. We now need to work on the boundaries.

As someone who recovered from porn months ago, it was amazing my body could act the way it did. It was a magical experience. But I realize I recovered because of the changes I made.



I recounted

one of our "gotta back up and take another run at the fence" episodes in Cupid. They're so awkward. Really pulls all the gains into doubt and makes conventional sex seem like it has to fit in there somewhere. Wink

Not surprised you're noticing a roving eye either. Gary says he feels hornier than normal for about two weeks after orgasm. And inevitably I tend to have the itch to remodel him, too. [boese] Fact is, you pretty much have to decide that your relationship is so precious to you that you won't willingly jeopardize it for short term thrills. Seems like that should be an easy call, but biology means business.:O

Eventually the trade-off gets clear. Frankly, some back and forth seems to be essential to that process, so consider it a valuable lesson.

Good luck getting things back on track.

We are back on track

It's been two weeks now since our journey over the edge.

I posted my story more to help others as they experiment with karezza and just share experiences. Like anything, I expected some challenges and understood it would take a while to fully change.


for posting the bad as well as the good. This community wouldn't have credibility if people were only posting the good stuff, and I probably would have surfed right on through.

Same thing is happening over

Same thing is happening over here, I think. You're so excited that the sex is so great that... you get excited. Oops! :) My husband still enjoys it way too much when I get over excited and I still don't have enough discipline. But one of our goals is to get rid of any negativity surrounding sex, so we try to be positive in our approach when we reset the clock. It's hard not to feel guilty about it, at least for me, because I know I do so much better without all that nonsense... but it's still fun sometimes. I'm hoping our Karezza reaches a level one day where I truly have no more urges for conventional sex or orgasm anymore!