I had a talk with a young man, 17, that I work with yesterday ( I work with youth ).
Another colleague had been telling me for weeks that's have to hear his story, sou finally had a few minutes to talk to him.
So, this kid-who, by the way, is very magnetic, super funny, and a real leader among the kids, told me.
He has been dating three or four different girls a month since he was 14. They're all crazy about him. But here's the clincher -he doesn't have sex with them,fool around or anything. And believe me, he's not gay-he's masculine and virile. He then told me that he recently started dating a woman,and he's been dating her for two months. She asked him to have sex withher for her birthday, and he refused. So they broke up. From what the other guys say, the girls he dates are beauties. He doesn't fool around with them on principle ( maybe Christian or other) -he also does not look at porn or m.
I thanked him for sharing his inspiring story and told him that he is one in a thousand.
I also said to him that that's what the secret to his leadership and charm is,his courtly purity and conservation of sexual energy. I told him more kids should learn from him--look at the benefits- magnetism, energy, and a bevy of adoring females.
As for me, chugging along. Been tired all week since the relapse, but some gentle bonding with wife and baby is helping.
So grateful to be on this path. It can only get better.