Ordered Cupid's Arrow today. Sent my husband links to information on this site and youtube videos with the hope he will be open to living Karezza. Neither of us have porn addiction (to my knowledge), but I have been aware of the Coolidge effect in our marriage for years. I've longed for cuddling slow sex for years, have given him "hints" but figure at this point, after 20 years of marriage, it's time to be more direct with my needs. I see some of my bouts of hysteria and his response "you just need to get laid" to be true. But I didn't need orgasm - nor did he. I just needed to be affirmed, caressed, gazed upons, stroked.
So we shall see how things unfold. Ironically, I have already planned a six month break from our routine. I'm going to be living 6 hours away starting about a month from now. Before stumbling upon this site I thought the break would create an "absence makes the heart grow fonder" experience, so perhaps when I do see him occassionally during the 6 months we'd have some great sex. I always feel like I'm begging for sex, often feel rejected etc, but what I really want is some direct attention.
How can I build Karezza into the six month distance? Does phone Karezza exist? Are words enough? Should I send gifts, make calls, send email notes....??