Hello everyone. This is my first karezza blog. A brief background on me first. I originally came to this site via the porn addiction route, so I have been involved in the rebalancing/rebooting section. I was a heavy porn user/ overmasturbater and had all of the associated problems. I went through a long reboot process (over 150 days) and have basically transformed my sexuality. I have been dating this girl for about 5 months now and the sex has been fantastic. It has been, of course, conventional sex and I want to start doing karezza first because I believe that it is worth while and secondly I can already feel the Coolidge effect intruding on our relationship and my basic mood in general.
Also for the first time in months, I am having a stretch of days where I dont have any morning erections, I think its going on a week now. I have recently switched to night shift work and my sleep patterns are pretty screwy. I just have been feeling that I am low on dopamine/have raised my dopamine threshold lately.
I don't ever really masturbate, since I have been sexually active with my girlfriend. We are in a semi-long distance reltionship and we usually get to be together for 4 to 6 day stretches every couple weeks. We have been having a lot of frequent vigorous sex, doing it up to 5 times in a day sometimes. Very few times have I been able to withold ejaculation, though I am able to last long enough for her to come about half the times. No erectile problems to speak of in general. However, I have lately been feeling less arousable and slightly less drawn to her and I know it has nothing to do with her. Also I must mention that we have a great relationship and have both professed our love for one another. I love her and I don't want a mediocre love relationship. The reboot process taught me that I don't need orgasm the way I thought I did. I have mentioned karezza to her and she wants to try it. I guess I am a bit nervous because I have never actually tried it before. We have experimented with things like me licking her breasts and her gently stroking my erection ( I though it was amazing), but I have never tried karezza-type intercourse and i feel like I will need a lot of practice. I would love to have a sex life that didn't leave either of us feeling drained afteward and is geared toward bonding and lovemaking instead of orgasm and I am pretty sure she is on board. I don't know if either of us is ready to give up orgasmic sex entirely, but that may not be necessary. Anyway, any suggestion for beginners is welcome.