After a 2 1/2 year absence, I am back with a very lovely wife of 3 1/2 months, and we
are both happier than we have ever been. Prior to this, we had a wonderful 2 year
relationship filled with an abundance of non-sexual touch, although we reserved any
sexual activity for our marriage. Cupid's Poisoned Arrow opened our minds to the
amazing power of touch and bonding behaviors, and gave us the confidence that we
could build a life together without the usual pitfalls found in common sex.
With the exception of one or two nights since our wedding (and her being out of town for
a week after 12 weeks), we have fallen asleep every night joined together in the scissors
position. Usually, after between 2-3 hours, I think we are both so deeply relaxed that our
bodies just kind of roll apart without either of us waking up. Once in a while, one of us will
wake up and see what time it is (so we have some idea of how long we stay joined
together). Much of the time, when one or both of us awake early in the morning no longer
with PIV, we are touching limbs. So it seems that we often unconsciously reach out to
maintain touch with each other even while we're asleep. (relaxation and polarity maybe?)
A time or two, we have slept joined together for 4-5 hours before we woke up. Recently,
we talked over whether we wanted to attempt rejoining in the middle of the night if one of
us woke up, and we decided to give it a try. A few nights ago, I awoke about 2:30am, I
woke her, we rejoined soft entry (the lamp was on for 30 seconds or less), and we
immediately fell back asleep until I awoke at 5am. Half awake, I had a nice erection, and
even the tiniest of movements in her vagina were exquisite. She awoke to my very slow,
gentle movements with periods of stillness, and we had a beautiful interlude of 30 to 45
Many mornings we awake well-rested a half hour or more before the alarm clock, and
have a nice space of time for conscious, gentle lovemaking that always sets the tone for
the whole day. This morning we were more sleepy than usual, but we still spent a few
minutes chest to chest, and then 10-15 minutes of PIV. We have missed only a couple of
days (and her week out of town) without at least 10 minutes of PIV to start the day.
Most of my entries have been soft, but as I continue to heal sexually, I am waking up
more frequently with an erection , or I'm becoming erect shortly after entry. Soft entry is
very easy for me when she parts her labia. Either way, whether erect entry or soft entry,
walnut oil is our friend !! Soft entry with walnut oil is great because we are often very tired
when we go to bed, and we can "plug in" without even a thought or worry about me having
an erection or her being lubricated.
For comfort, we fold a pillow in half and place it behind me for her to rest her feet on (so
the full weight of her legs is not resting on my stomach or side while we're in the scissors
position). She always lays with her back flat on the bed (because she probably couldn't
sleep otherwise) and I turn my body to fit with hers. Use whatever pillows or props that
you need. Get as comfortable as you possibly can if you plan to fall asleep with PIV.
One day we went straight to the bedroom when I got home from work, got naked, and
reviewed our day with each other as we lay very relaxed and joined together in scissors.
One afternoon on a weekend we joined together scissors and read a spiritual book
together for an hour or more. We have a deep reverence for our lovemaking, but, at the
same time, we feel completely comfortable and at home in our bodies while making love.
We have settled into a personal pattern that works very well for us, while we remain open
to any adjustments we may see that we need as we continue to heal and respond to
each other's opposite sexual polarity. We now have a sexual abundance that works very
well for us without any of the common time crunch problems of fitting frequent lovemaking and
sexual healing into our busy daily schedules.