I started this thread to comment and discuss times when one partner is into orgasmic sex and the other is into Karezza.
So we're doing things differently. She's having her orgasms and I'm practicing Karezza. I say that because my experience is mostly Karezza. I don't come and I focus on my root and enjoy the sensations and the connection. She does for awhile and then gets more into the orgasm part. But that's great from my point of view because she feels freed from being controlled or influenced by me. I am able to reverse a mistake I think I made a year ago.
That mistake was trying to influence her not to have orgasms. She became self conscious and shut down. Now she's opening up again. It's a little strange for me because it's a bit of a flip flop during sex. I guess it's a lot more like "hot Karezza" a la Stanley Bass. But whatever. It seems to be working.