So, I hung out last night with a new guy. We spent several hours together- close to seven. There was nervousness at first but eventually he put his arms around me to cuddle and it took off from there. A lot of bonding behaviors. He was openly expressed how much he enjoyed cuddling with me. There wasnt very much conversation relatively speaking. The time we spent together seemed extremely relaxing on my Nervous system at first but a couple of hours in it began to heat up somewhat. He began kissing my neck and without me even realizing it at first I guess because he was very gentle he was kissing my nipples and breasts. It felt really good but at the same time I wasn't quite ready to cross a sexual boundary. When I realized what he was doing I expressed the best I could that It was crossing a boundary. nevertheless, on one or two more occasions he was doing the same thing and it was very hard to resist him.
on the overall it was a great bonding experience. He's very easy to cuddle with. Towards the end of the night I told him I just wanted to relax because I could see we were both kind of heated up. So we just layed down and held each other and even fell asleep for a while.
I would like to see him again. I'm just concerned that our encounters may become too sexual too quickly. I really would like this to be a nourishing soothing bonding experience. While I am apparently turned on by him I really don't want to be sexual with anybody unless I sure there is some sort of emotional compatability.
My main intention is just to experience the benefits of consistent affectionate (not necesarily sexual) touch
Any advice on how I can keep healthy boundaries in place?
I've hardly slept since I've got home last night. I'm feeling pretty buzzed. We may hang out tonight again