Jojoba oil - (Quizure) My partner and I both were irritated by this oil. It put us out of commission for a number of days. Now we just use all natural, unprocessed, SPIT! It's Paleo! UPDATE: We tried a lot of things, but have settled on a product called inessents organic cocoa butter. Spill proof, but slightly creamy, and smells wonderful. You can't spill it, or drip it on things, which happened too often with liquid oils, at least for us. I also now have a sexual response to the smell of the cocoa butter. :) Even at 55, I'm still trainable. :)
(Marnia) Diana Richardson recommends almond oil (available in the food oils aisle...choose organic). Tornfromabook likes coconut.
(emerson) Glycerin by itself sucks water out of the vaginal lining and isn't good. With water, it's fine. Too much water and it isn't lubricating enough. But it isn't really that tricky and I mix and apply before intercourse. The coconut oil or butter or MCT oil was fine until it wasn't. I really have kind of messed up my penis from it. Lost some sensitivity and I'm still trying to figure out how to heal there. I never expected that.
(Darryl) Along with spit, Aloe Vera Gel works great. Get the 99% pure stuff. Besides being an excellent lubricant it has great skin healing properties as well.
(Rachel) We were using Liquid Silk with no problems for quite a long time and then suddenly it started causing a burning sensation for me (silicone). Now we use a completely water-based lubrication (H20 I think it's called).
(wfk007) We tried Olive Oil for a little while. It was recommended to my wife by a therapist (she was having tightness issues). I didn't care for it, for some reason it felt like there was tiny things in it that took away the feeling (like fine sandpaper). But we did not have any issues with cleaning the sheets.
To the original question, my wife doesn't really use lubricants anymore thanks to karezza. Just some gentle time holding and light touching warms her up. She also initiates any intercourse so she can become comfortable by directing me into her gently. I think the change is due to no pressure and her relaxing. In the past the need to perform got to her. Now she no longer cares about performing.
(Luv2fly) We have been using 100% pure cocoa butter. It is a hard stick when it is room temp but with a little body heat it quickly melts, we love the way it smells and tastes, like chocolate! It does not loose it's lubricity like some of the water based stuff.
(blissed) Walnut oil is our friend. Soft entry with walnut oil is great because we are often very tired when we go to bed, and we can "plug in" without even a thought or worry about me having an erection or her being lubricated.
(John G.) We never used lube until we began karezza -- my wife was squeamish about anything 'artificial' -- but now, in karezza, readily accedes to me using it. I use grapeseed oil and it works perfectly: light and thin, absorbed through the skin.
(emerson) We use almond oil in a little spray bottle and I've figured out how to get it in the right place without dripping on the sheets :)