My Life With Karezza

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Hi guys, my name is Jamie. I am Bisexual and have a boyfriend and a girlfriend (lucky me)
I have been practicing Karezza for some time and I love it.
It is not easy and I do ache alot and feel frustrated at times, but my sex life is now truly amazing. I would highly recommend it.

If anyone wants any advise, support or just a friend, get in touch.


Yes both my boyfriend and

Yes both my boyfriend and girlfriend are into it as well.
I am not sure how to stop the aching though, I make love and sometimes masturbate, maybe I am taking things too far or too fast?

Depends on the quantity

but humans have been doing lots of both for a long time (although not generally as much masturbation as they do today, I'd guess).

Karezza is about what goes on in the brain, as you would know if you had read my book. It's not about "saving genital stress."

Are you a troll??

My sense is that

fighting your body isn't the way to succeed at this.

The only way I know to succeed is to slow way down and ease your body into a new gear. In other words, karezza isn't "regular sex" without the orgasm. That said, once you get to the point of contented relaxation, you have more options for greater movement if you want them.

When I say "slow down" I mean a lot. One man here described it as "1/4 his normal speed." Forget the "banging" and train yourself to focus on every nuance. Keep asking yourself, "What am I feeling right now?"


is about partnered activity, so I can't help you there. Masturbation may not have been as essential to our ancestors as it is believed to be today. WEIRD Masturbation Habits

Any benefits to masturbation are surprisingly scant, and the research is conflicting. But scientists believe any (possible) benefits are related to ejaculation, not "edging," which could put undue stress on the prostate.  What if I masturbate (edge) or watch porn without orgasm?

Some celibates have used energy circulation practices to "spread" their sexual energy when highly aroused. Energy Circulation Practices

I think of Karezza as a paradigm shift

It's a fundamentally different way of being [together], but it's hard to explain to someone who hasn't actually experienced it themselves.

The way I experience it is that after some time away from orgasms, I don't really desire them anymore (and I don't feel like masturbating either). But when I've had one or more recently, then I do want them. So it's like there's a neurochemical switch in my brain that one orgasm triggers which puts me into that mode for a while. My theory is that it's the way humans regulate "mating season". Since we don't have a mating season, this mechanism probably originated as a way to elevate the importance of mating activities when mating opportunities were available, and conversely to be able to prioritize other important activities (like hunting) when they weren't.

Theory aside, you may find (as I did) that skipping the "O" for a while takes you to a new place; one where many more subtle sensations and emotions can rise to the surface. It's like walking into a dark room. At first, you don't see anything. But as you acclimate to your new surroundings, you start to see things with more and more clarity.