Hello.I hope this isn't a problem but I wasn't sure in which category my post will fit into, as it crosses multiple topics.
A bit about me :
So I've been an observer for about a year, ever since I decided to quit porn. I'm a 21 year old male by the way. I quit on Nov 1, 2013, with only < 5 instances where i watched porn in that time. When I quit, I had just started a relationship with a woman about a month before, this relationship is still going on today. Here's issues that I'm facing that i really would like some input in :
1. Premature ejaculation, especially during intercourse hasn't gotten any better since we first started dating. I literally ejaculate upon touching her vagina. I've mostly gotten more sensitive, more likely to get an erection, and more likely to ejaculate
2. My partner isn't very sold on karezza and the passion cycle, particularly when it comes to her. She sees how ejaculating affects me for two weeks, but she claims that orgasms don't have an effect on her.If she's buying into karezza, it's because she's realizing how forced it feels to orgasm from oral sex, and how it just doesn't last long after that.
3. I still just can't help but check out other women all the time. Don't know if it's my fault or the women's fault for wearing very suggestive clothing. Whenever a woman passes by me, I especially can't help but look at her rear. For a while while I was quitting porn, I basically turned my gaze away from women completely. But nowadays I can't help but just look and salivate. As our relationship has been falling apart, and i'm just feeling down a lot, I've even started looking at models on Instagram.
4. We don't have a private space for sex. We both go to the same university and live with our respective parents. We just can't find a space on campus that would be private and secure long enough for us to undress and just cuddle, let alone have sex. Because of this, we rarely have sex these days, just kissing and caressing with clothes on isn't doing it for us anymore. It just teases us, even when we do it in the calmest way possible. We're both frustrated. It feels like the relationship is faltering.
I've read both Cupid's Poisoned Arrow and Tantric Sex for Men which have helped me understand a lot of what's going on. It's difficult to do the techniques and ideas that are mentioned in those books when my partner doesn't buy into it. I've shared the books with her, and when I thought a book might be too much, I shared posts from this website. We've watched Slow Sex too by Diana Richardson. She hasn't read the books, only a few sections when I basically urged her to read them. I've even suggested Tantric Orgasm for Women
Any suggestions ? I really need other people's input. Doing this alone with my partner has been very very difficult. Nowadays I'm even considering finding another partner.
If you've gotten this far, Thanks a lot for reading my post. It's much appreciated.