I remember when I went to 12 step meetings, there was a part in the book where it says something like: Those of us who thought of ourselves as great lovers were actually great love cripples..
A few months ago, I read in No More Mr Nice Guy something about overtly trying to please women in the bedroom, women don't find it attractive. I used to pride myself on my ability to please a woman, worked on and tried to please women as much as possible. Women would say I was absolutely awesome in bed, but none of them stayed with me. Thing is, I knew how to please women and give them plenty of orgasm, but I wasn't satisfying them..
Now, for the last few months I've been following the advice, and, more recently I had sex w a girl, and although, Yeah I was trying to please her somewhat, also a few times I was like, "could you do such and such for me?" And, in the end I knew that, even though I didn't last as long as I prided myself before and was more "selfish" than I used to be in the past, I knew she would be satisfied when I was done and she was.
What I learned from this is that women actually want to satisfy their man too and not just themselves, and that before when I tried overtly to please them it actually took away from them being able to please me, which is actually part of their satisfaction
Just wanted to share this with you guys