6-30 After being married for 25 years (we are in our late 50s) this is a new one for us. I must say it is different, a good different. Before Karezza my wife and I had what I consider to be a great sex life, orgasm driven and goal oriented though it was. We had sex about every other day with mutual orgasm about twice a week and me orgasming every time, that was always the goal, orgasm. Me hoping she would cum, her hoping I would cum, her hoping she would cum, you know the drill. Although my wife only orgasmed once maybe twice weekly I always felt like I needed to do more to get her to cum more often.
Now, that doesn't exist and what a difference! Our sex life has taken on a whole new look and feel. I used Cialis for about the last four years due to some ED issues and I don't even need that anymore, amazing! My erections are getting back to where they were ten years ago, happening sooner with less physical stimulation and being as hard as they ever were, and even though I sometimes loose my erection during Karezza, it comes around again, every time so far, and that never happened before, once it was gone, it was gone. I can only think it must be because the pressure to last and to perform are gone, what a relief.
So we are reading the book by Lloyd, enjoying this journey and taking it one day at a time. We are practicing Karezza every day right now for about an hour or more but I suppose that will change as we get more into it. I guess right now it is still a novel thing for us and we will probably get back the every other day routine. I must admit I do miss those huge orgasms we had together but the trade-off, so far is worth it.
We have always been a bonding couple. It seems like this was just what we needed at this point in our marriage at this time, not easy to explain, but so far it's working. Yesterday we discovered the "Karezza oral sex" gear, WOW! I never would have imagined what it could be like not finish a session like that without orgasms, never would have dreamed of it, but all I can say is WOW! Just as intercourse is very gentle and slow and lengthy, so was this, it took some focusing and thought to "stay" where we needed to be, but it did work. It was not mutual oral sex but individual. It also took some communication between us to let each other know when to give things a break before they got too heated up.
We have had orgasmless intercourse many times over the last 25 years, just as a means of bonding, but never knew what it was called and never continued with it, always went back to having orgasms, which for us almost always are simultaneous. With orgasmless sex, when it was over, it was over, kinda nice. A nice closeness and a nice feeling. I guess that is what Karezza is all about, I'm just not too sure about the whole 'no more o's ' concept. We are going to give it a try.
7-06 Does anyone have an opinion on edging while involved in Karezza? Wife and I are still new to this but it happened last night during intercourse and it was fun and good but we don't know if it is a good path to go down or not. Several times we both got so close to orgasm, and though it was a bit difficult we managed to get things back to normal, whatever that is......
We use 100% pure cocoa butter as a lubricant. It is a hard stick when it is room temp but with a little body heat it quickly melts, we love the way it smells and tastes, like chocolate! It does not loose it's lubricity like some of the water based stuff.
7-07 Slamming on the brakes is no fun, it feels unnatural to stop the whole process. Seems like it is better not to go there. We can both have nice long bonding sessions without getting to the edge, so we are going to try to avoid going down that road, approaching orgasm and having to 'hold back'. The bonding effect is better without it, regardless of how good it feels. But it's all good!
I have suffered from sleep disorder for years but since Karezza came into our lives I sleep through the night. Don't know if it is just a coincidence or if it has something to do with no orgasms. This is all so amazing to me, how come we haven't heard more about Karezza over the years? This is the best thing that has ever happened to our marriage. I have also noticed stronger urine stream etc. The benefits are amazing.
7-08 I can't tell you how much it has meant to my wife and I to have this site available. Thank-you! I want to share this place with some friends but am not too sure how to approach it. My wife and I both agree, it would be great to help out some struggling couples we know. Just not too sure how to do it..
I am sure Fox News would be interested in this and with a little publicity it would be watched and talked about by lots of folks for a long time! With all the talk nowadays about gay rights, lesbian rights, etc., I would imagine this topic would be one they would like to discuss and debate.
The other way to understand things sometimes, is to follow the money, there is no money in this thing, certainly the Pharmacuetical companies don't want anyone to hear about anything that can help with ED and sleep dissorder, and they sure don't won't to hear about something that doesn't cost a dime, bringing feelings of wellbeing and happiness, without taking a pill, or spending thousands with counselors and shrinks. Imagine what the marriage counseling sector would have to say about it. I remember being told one time years ago that one way to measure the strength and success of a marriage was by the amount of sex and orgasms! How many times have men and women felt guilty because they didn't orgasm when making love with their mate? And you can imagine how this would go over with the porn industry, hahaha. Oh well enough of this, just glad we found it, or it found us....
7-11 Several years ago I used a balloon and a helium tank to explain to my wife how my orgasms worked. We would time our orgasms, so we could orgasm together, and sometimes when I was "ahead" of her I would need her to slow down (she was usually on top) to let me recover a bit. I would inflate the balloon until it almost popped and then release some of the helium and then I would refill it. I did this several times to show her how it worked. After several inflation/deflation cycles I let it fill up till it popped, BANG! BOOM! orgasm, dead balloon...... I did this to help her better understand how once the balloon popped (or I had my orgasm) it was all over. No more, done, finished, it's over, sorry about your luck. Now that we are practicing Karezza the balloon does get a bit inflated from time to time but being aware of what is happening an not "over-inflating" the balloon is what it is all about now. There is no more done, finished, it's over, sorry about your luck, which is what we are finding to be the beauty of Karezza. Both of us come away feeling satisfied and bonded not leaving either one out in the cold, helpless, in need, and unsatisfied. It would be nice to see Karezza out in the open.
7-14 The Hidden Factor is the next thing people need to be exposed to. That was what my wife and watched and that is what really got us through the initial learning curve.
I do believe there is a learning curve with Karezza, it's just not 'natural' for us to have sex without orgasm. It takes some education before the lightbulb comes on. Once it does come on it's like, "Wow, this makes sense!" but I don't think it's possible without some education. Those dumb c-nts on "The View" are a prime example of that. You should go to ABCs site and check those idiots out! Yeah, orgasms are the holy grail till you know better, especially when they are experienced together. Grandma used to say lard tasted good till you tried butter.
And what about this whole issue of a woman having "female sexual disorder" because she doesn't have regular, mind blowing orgasm? Now they are going to consider this another "disease" which will require more medical treatment and of course, some more pills you can take to get fixed of your disease. And I can hear husbands saying, "You need to get to the doctor honey and get checked out so you can start having orgasms again. I hear there is a new pill to help fix your problem".
Oh well, enough ranting and raving, we aren't going to change the world that's for sure. I am just thankful that our marriage has been blessed with a new way to bond and be close. We are closer than ever. We have intercourse almost every day, without orgasms, neither one of us is horny or craving sex, just craving the bonding time together. It is so easy and so natural. It is amazing!
Experiment with returning to ejaculation: http://www.reuniting.info/blogs/luv2fly/going-back-sharing-my-semen