We had only been on two dates prior to having sex. I'm not used to women moving along this quickly! She kind of surprised me with that. Netflix and BAM! :) Nothing wrong with that, but I learned that the kind of sex she really likes is not what I'd like, so are we incompatible?
We do have a lot in common, it feels like I could really grow to like her. But there is this problem, the sex. If you asked me five years ago, what would I have told you I'd like in a woman. I'd probably say I'd like intense, hot, earth-shaking love. But now I feel like that's not what I want any longer. This woman that I just met, is all about orgasm and chasing the high in bed, that much is clear after spending the night with her.
I, naturally, came immediatelly :)
I acted rather sheepishly afterwards, saying I'd rather not have ejaculated and she asked me what's wrong with that, orgasm is great! Obviously she's coming from a "the only way to make sex bad is to shame it" angle with that remark. I'm not terribly good with words but I told her that I rather not come and that it makes me feel lously afterwards.
I wish I had told her something else, this just confused her I think. I tried to spin it with some sentence about it being nicer if we could be connected longer but eh. She told me that the tempo I was going for would require her to use a vibrator. I didn't challenge that but I now I'm thinking, have she ever tried? Have she ever had a partner willing to test it?
Anyway, needed to put these thoughts somewhere since I have no friends I feel comfortable talking sex with. :)