I am new to the forum, nearly finished with "the book" and waking up to the wisdom I have read and how it has affected my life.
One of the realizations is how I have been addicted to the passion cycle for many years. This addiction lead me to make some very poor choices about seven years ago. I was experiencing a bad time in my marriage and I ended up pursuing online porn, then meeting others for sex. During a three month period, I met with several couples for sex. Eventually, I decided that the open and honest relationships that these couples were having was what I was looking for. I ended the affairs and told my wife what I had done. We've worked hard to improve our relationship since then, and I think we are in a better place now than ever before.
Now to the point of the post. During these meetings with the couples, I rarely had an orgasm. These sessions lasted two to four hours with erections coming and going as the stimulation rose and fell. I found much comfort and relaxation in these meetings and still haven't found that with my wife. (She is very goal oriented and feels that she has failed somehow unless I have an orgasm during sex.)
My question is this: Does it seem reasonable that I unintentionally stumbled onto a form of Karezza with these other people? During this time, I lost many of my other cravings and even lost a significant amount of weight. It feel right to me, and if so it gives me great hope as to how this can help my relationship with my wife.