So, there is this guy that I've been seeing for four months. He's away now overseas but he's coming home in March. We've kept in contact and I've even mentioned my recent reading on the karezza :D When I brought it up he acknowledged it as peaking as many times as possible, but I moved him towards the fact that it's not about going OVER, and emphasizing more of the emotional bonding side of things as well. I guess I am wondering the best way to incorporate the practices of the karezza without him feeling like I'm forcing things. I'm thinking on the side of when sex comes up I need tell him that I won't go all the way with a guy until we're in committed relationship and explaining something to the effect of what I am looking for in terms of relationships too (karezza) and why I am looking for that. Do you all think this would be a good approach to it?
I also have some miscellaneous questions about karezza...
Cupid's poisoned arrow talks about how orgasm is the poison. If we have karezza sex and he masturbates later to orgasm - will that create a negative impact on our relationship as having orgasmic sex would inevitably do? And... can karezza be incorporated into fetishes that partners may explore?
Thank youuuu's :D