We've been through trauma because I discovered his PA. He's living at his parents for now. However through reading YBOP site I came across Karezza and read up about it on this site. I showed my husband and he was eager to try and rebuild our bond/trust/and if it aided his recovery so much the better.
Today is day 5 of no stimulating his Penis and only doing the massage on it. He was extremely sore yesterday, he said it's how he imagines period pains are for women.
On day 1 of massage about 10mins after once he was clothed we were just talking and he suddenly started shuddering kind of like an orgasm but without the ejaculate.
I had my own unique experience too a couple of days ago. I needed to stop physical contact because I was getting close. Too close but it was too late. Within seconds of him moving away from me I had a prolonged orgasm on my own. This has never happened without the typical stimulation. My husband said it was incredibly erotic to see but after I felt bad and was worried I'd lose all we'd been building up. Luckily I didn't and last night (although we shouldn't have because we've not done the two weeks yet) we did eachother genital massage ensuring not to touch where we shouldn't. Then lots of slow kissing/stroking/cuddling and we decided to put his Penis a little bit inside me. We stayed that way for about an hour or so while still lovingly touching eachother. It was lovely we both enjoyed it and we're amazed how much time had passed.
He's very sore again today. Is it bad we engaged the way we did before his two weeks of genital massage are completed? He didn't 'finish' we were actually really proud of ourselves. Also it feels great having him resting in me but I think we both thought his Penis would start to snake around/probe etc? Does that bit just take lots of time and practice?
Is passion allowed as long as no stimulating? We are trying really hard not to get too passionate but sometimes our kisses and cuddles and become a little frantic and we have to force ourselves to slow down.
We both really want to succeed at this because even though it's only been 5days we can see a huge difference. He says he really can't stop thinking about me. He's feeling more motivated etc. He's been lazy and neglectful for so long. It's good to see this change in him. I always seem ready for 'special time' it doesn't take much for either of us and I get very wet very quickly.
Is there anything we should or shouldn't be doing?
I'd appreciate any tips. Thanks