I have two questions and would greatly appreciate any insight or anecdotes. I had a partner to whom I was initially attracted to physically. However, the emotional connection we had the better than anything I could have ever imagined. At first sex was good, because of the novelty. However, over time, I habituated and my porn addiction spiraled out of control. We broke up because of what I thought was the lack of attraction and then I read Cupid's Poisoned Arrow. I also read the Brain that Changed Itself.
My questions are:
1. Are bonding practices powerful enough, to overcome lack of sexual attraction?
2. Is the brain neuroplastic enough to change what one finds attractive? Does anyone have an idea of how long it takes? What are its limits? Can you change your sexual orientation or have sexual desire for a morbidly obese person?
I want to win her back. But I don't want to hurt her again.
Thank you for your time.
PS: I'm 30 and she's 27.