Hi, I have a "research" or "evidence" type question about the passion cycle in women post--sex but without orgasm.
(To put some of the following into context, I am new to karezza, a happily married man, married once, several kids, relationship is good, just looking for something....better)
A few years back, when we were tweaking our sexual relationship, I became a lot more aware of my own feelings and those of my wife. I noticed that she got REALLY crabby/irritable/easily upset after sex. I didn't think about it much until recently, when I suddenly noticed it again. I am sure it has been there, but I became aware of it again.
It usually isn't huge, and I am afraid I didn't notice if it was worst post-orgasm, but it puts us out of sync and she is certainly not interested in sex/bonding again a for at least several days. I started reading about karezza just last week, and after I started, we had traditional sex twice in a couple of days. First time was gentle-ish, second time I was more active but on a scale of 1-5 with 5 being very...."active"....it was probably a 2 or 2.5. I had an orgasm both times, she did not on either occasion.
What happened next surprised me a bit. She was irritable and cranky the day after the 2nd encounter. She even said so. Nothing severe, but enough to make her feel "off". And I finally recognized my own post-orgasm problems to: neediness, kind of desperate need for another orgasm or at least some needy physical contact, brain fog.
So my question is this: Is there any evidence that non-orgasmic sex can cause prolactin excretion in females? Basically, can semi-vigorous sex (or even a "goal" based sexual encounter) cause the passion cycle, even if it is milder than it might be post-orgasm?
I know there is a dearth of research out there on this, and the only reference I could find was to the mice study where "vigorous" sex triggered the cycle in the animals. So maybe this is asking about experiences of anyone out there that could lend credence to the idea that even non-orgasmic sex could result in some form of the "hangover".
This was longer than expected. If you have read to here, thanks for reading!