finally having successful karezza sessions with my girlfriend. it is so effortless! there is no more craving! at least on my part. she still has orgasms sometimes. i realized i had to stop pushing and let her explore her own sexuality. i think in time she will follow my example and find the peace that this method instills. meanwhile i have just been showering her with lots of bonding affection and i allow her to initiate sex, (something i have never been able to do because i always initiated sex because i always wanted it before she did). not only that, but i have this method to thank, indirectly, for leading me to a new way life free of ego, free of suffering and illusion, and free to fully embrace the present moment. Thank you Marnia and all others on this site who have helped me along this journey.