After 4 weeks of using Webwatchers to record activity on our family computer, I learned that my fiance (age 37) who "never, ever masterbates and can't remember the last time I watched porn" was averaging PMO 5 times per week. We have been together over 4 years, and our sex is amazing, with a frequency of 4 - 5 times per week. This was a complete shock to me, especially given how direct and unnecessary the lying was - unnecessary because I am very open-minded sexually. We use to watch porn together occassionally, we have our favorite stripper at an all-nude club, have had threesomes, etc. He admits to around 3 years of this - he doesn't know exactly how long. Sometimes he does it twice per day, and there were times he knew I'd be available within 20 minutes but instead chose to PMO and be in bed before I'd get back home. Anyway...we are where we are now and he knows that I know. He is very determined to make the relationship work, and while he has given up porn 100% (over 2 weeks now), he is struggling with the MO. He hasn't done it that I know of (of course, he lies), but has had several urges. While I'm on reuniting and YBOP, he's researching the medical sites that of course say MO once per day is not a problem. He wants someone to give him an EXACT number of how many times per week is "normal" and "ok". His regular therapist is working to find someone locally that specializes at least somewhat in this addiction area. His testosterone is being tested soon, etc. He firmly believes that because he only accessed porn to masterbate (averaged 6 minutes per session), and didn't spend hours per day on it, he was/is not addicted to porn. Not to mention that he has given it up now and hasn't yet found himself in the fetal position. But let me say this...since I've known him he would have an occassional panic/anxiety attack (started about 10 years ago)once every 15 -18 months. He had one last Saturday and one again today. He thinks it's because he just went back on his Paxil, from what I've read on here, I believe it's a reaction to the "cold turkey". He has never had them at this frequency. Does anyone have any opinions/experiences I can share with him that might get us both on the "right track" here?