How porn rewired my brain

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Let me say that before this whole porn thing ever happened I remember only being interested in girls (both sexually and romantically) But, since I ever started that six year porn cycle, and it escalated to new genre's, and whatnot. You guys know how it works. Anyway, now that I'm here... I find that the porn (straight porn, but I eventually watched gay porn too) has made me decenticized to the male penis and sometimes I can find myself getting aroused by it. Now, this freaks me out because I could never see a man (even now) as my life partner. I think this'll go away during the recovery. But thats how porn has rewired my brain. Does this sound completely normal to you guys?

Not sure you're asking me...

but I'll just mention that even monkeys are interested in female bottoms and alpha males - perhaps for comparison purposes. Smile Moreover, many guys also learn to become aroused by the sight of an erection (starting with their own, and then by the porn videos they come to associate with getting off). That's actually called sensitization. Certain cues become "hot" because they become associated with "valuable" rewards...like getting off. Addicts can become sensitized to all kinds of weird cues because it happens at a subconscious level. A primitive part of the brain wires them up without conscious thought.

So getting turned on by visuals of penises is actually a short step for most of today's porn watchers...in part because they watch so many, in part they're also desensitized to normal pleasure - and therefore clicking to, and in the habit of becoming aroused to, all kinds of bizarre things. Watch Gary's series if you want to understand more about how this works. http://yourbrainonporn.com/your-brain-on-porn-series

What's not normal is for young adolescents to start watching hours a day of superstimulating, ever-novel internet porn, which numbs their brains to pleasure and drives them to kinkier and kinkier stuff. (For gay viewers that can be straight porn, BTW!). A visual that produces anxiety increases sexual arousal...because of the exciting neurochemicals it releases - beyond the exciting neurochemicals from arousal / seeking / novelty.

So, you're a normal internet porn product, but your situation would be VERY abnormal for the rest of human evolution. As a 26-year old I know...who needed 9 months to get his erections back once porn-related ED set in...said, "We're going to look back at this period of history, and giving hardcore porn to young kids, and say, 'WHAT WERE WE THINKING???'"

Did you watch this? Adolescent Brain Meets Highspeed Internet Porn - YouTube You are not stuck with where you are now, but it will take some mental muscle to turn things around, and there will be ups and downs. If you are not able to view YBOP links, PM me and I will ask your porn-blocking service to add it to the "white list."