I give up

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I've tried everything that I can possibly do

No sensitivity has returned so therefore I Quit trying

jersey1,

What? Just like that? I see you've been a member here for about a month. How long have u been trying everything you possibly can? COME ON MANNNNN

Reginald wrote:

[quote=Reginald]What? Just like that? I see you've been a member here for about a month. How long have u been trying everything you possibly can? COME ON MANNNNN[/quote]117 days

Reginald wrote:

[quote=Reginald]What have u done to regain sensitivity?[/quote]thats what I'm waiting on is my sensitivity.

The reason why I said I give up is because what more can do? I've had patience because everybody here is struggling the same way I am but I lost patience

But I will still be on here to hear what u guys have to say

Did you try that link on ybop

Did you try that link on ybop about if your reboot is taking to long?

Idk what the address is but search "reboot taking to long" or "taking to long" on ybop. There's an article about what your dealing with.

needhops wrote:

[quote=needhops]Did you try that link on ybop about if your reboot is taking to long?

Idk what the address is but search "reboot taking to long" or "taking to long" on ybop. There's an article about what your dealing with.[/quote]I've read that

What made you decide to stop

What made you decide to stop it? You're only going to make it worse this way. I mean what other options do you have? Going back to your old porn habbits?

Did you try to have sex and it failed? What made you decide this.

High_Achiever wrote:

[quote=High_Achiever]What made you decide to stop it? You're only going to make it worse this way. I mean what other options do you have? Going back to your old porn habbits?

Did you try to have sex and it failed? What made you decide this.[/quote]

I'm not going back to my old porn habbits, I said I give up because I ran outta options so there is nothing left me to do.

I can an erection talking to a woman over a phone, texting (nothing sexually, just friendly) but when I go out and woman check me out I get nothing

Haven't tried sex, because I thought I would be clear to hang not pun intended

you're making it worse then

you're making it worse then it is.

Do you feel turned on by the girls that you're seeing? You don't need to get an erection when you see girls. Don't expect too much of this reboot as well.

Do you have any potential girlfriends on your radar? Maybe this will put you at ease when you start initiating sex.

Perhaps you should talk to borshajen, I know that he's had a though reboot as well.

Sensitivity?

Do you mean sexual desire or libido when you say sensitivity?

Or when YOU touch your penis, it it feels less sensitive (numb? dead?) than it  did prior tp porn use?

 

I wouldn't panick so much.

I wouldn't panick so much.

I think a girlfriend can work wonders for you. Perhaps you'll feel more comfortable trying out sex with someone you feel more close to.

I don't see what other options you have.

High_Achiever wrote:

[quote=High_Achiever]I wouldn't panick so much.

I think a girlfriend can work wonders for you. Perhaps you'll feel more comfortable trying out sex with someone you feel more close to.

I don't see what other options you have.[/quote] I get an erection talking over the phone or texting (nothing sexually) but I get nothing lookin at a girl. She smile then I smile

so you get an erection when

so you get an erection when you're talking to them. Then why wouldn't you be able to get an erection when you want to have sex.

Frankly if I were, just start dating and take it more slowly. Some girls will like that.

Just do what feels right, just don't give up. I think you're too hard on yourself here.

Spiritualhealing1988 wrote:

[quote=Spiritualhealing1988]I'm sure it will come back. I'm sure your rebooted man you just have to rewire and the only way to rewire to a real women is to begin to talk to her.[/quote] I do talk but as walk away then the erection comes but doesn't last long like it use to

Spiritualhealing1988 wrote:

[quote=Spiritualhealing1988]You have to cuddle flirt and touch each other man. You don't want an erection when talking to a chic because you will probably start talking with your penis instead of using your brain and heart. You have to use your penis when the time comes.[/quote] All I want is my erections to last longer like before my porn use

You need to do this:

You need to do this:

http://yourbrainonporn.com/using-meditation-reverse-ed

I've been rebooting longer than you (141 days), had successful sex recently, and think that the only way I'll get my erections as hard as I want is to do this (plus maybe some kegels and stuff). I've done the meditation exercises mentioned in the article a few times during my reboot and, every time I do them, I get more spontaneous erections that day that are harder without me trying to make them so. I just haven't done the exercises consistently enough to get the full benefits. I think I'm still very cut off from my sexual organs from years of abuse and shame/guilt. I can create the feeling of heat in every other part of my body except my genitals. I'm starting to be able to do it there too, it just takes a lot more effort and focus.

You need to lay down new positive brain patterns to regain sensitivity. In my opinion, until you've done the meditation exercises described in the article diligently for 4-6 weeks, you haven't done everything you can. I would say the same to any guy whose reboot has been longer than expected. I'll let you know my progress. I would love if you would do them with my so I can have a benchmark myself.

recovering wrote:

[quote=recovering]You need to do this:

http://yourbrainonporn.com/using-meditation-reverse-ed

I've been rebooting longer than you (141 days), had successful sex recently, and think that the only way I'll get my erections as hard as I want is to do this (plus maybe some kegels and stuff). I've done the meditation exercises mentioned in the article a few times during my reboot and, every time I do them, I get more spontaneous erections that day that are harder without me trying to make them so. I just haven't done the exercises consistently enough to get the full benefits. I think I'm still very cut off from my sexual organs from years of abuse and shame/guilt. I can create the feeling of heat in every other part of my body except my genitals. I'm starting to be able to do it there too, it just takes a lot more effort and focus.

You need to lay down new positive brain patterns to regain sensitivity. In my opinion, until you've done the meditation exercises described in the article diligently for 4-6 weeks, you haven't done everything you can. I would say the same to any guy whose reboot has been longer than expected. I'll let you know my progress. I would love if you would do them with my so I can have a benchmark myself.[/quote]I'll give it a try

recovering wrote:

[quote=recovering]You need to do this:

http://yourbrainonporn.com/using-meditation-reverse-ed

I've been rebooting longer than you (141 days), had successful sex recently, and think that the only way I'll get my erections as hard as I want is to do this (plus maybe some kegels and stuff). I've done the meditation exercises mentioned in the article a few times during my reboot and, every time I do them, I get more spontaneous erections that day that are harder without me trying to make them so. I just haven't done the exercises consistently enough to get the full benefits. I think I'm still very cut off from my sexual organs from years of abuse and shame/guilt. I can create the feeling of heat in every other part of my body except my genitals. I'm starting to be able to do it there too, it just takes a lot more effort and focus.

You need to lay down new positive brain patterns to regain sensitivity. In my opinion, until you've done the meditation exercises described in the article diligently for 4-6 weeks, you haven't done everything you can. I would say the same to any guy whose reboot has been longer than expected. I'll let you know my progress. I would love if you would do them with my so I can have a benchmark myself.[/quote] I clicked on the link and read it, it don't say how long to meditate. What would be a estimate amount of time that I should I go for ?

I would suggest sitting or

I would suggest sitting or lying down. Focus on your breath. Imagine there are nostrils two finger widths below your navel- breathe through those "nostrils". Draw your attention into your dominant hand (or any part of your body- dominant hand works well for me). Try to feel it from the inside. The longer you keep your attention in that part of the body, the more you'll be able to feel heat within it. Slowly, methodically move your attention all over your body, just whatever feels right. Feel the heat throughout the body. Move the heat in waves up and down your body. Then draw your attention into your genitals. I've used my PC muscle (after kegels) as a focus. I've also used the base of the shaft which works pretty well too. Try to create that pleasant feeling of radiating heat. Twice/day, 15 min/each session.

Let's do it.

recovering wrote:

[quote=recovering]I would suggest sitting or lying down. Focus on your breath. Imagine there are nostrils two finger widths below your navel- breathe through those "nostrils". Draw your attention into your dominant hand (or any part of your body- dominant hand works well for me). Try to feel it from the inside. The longer you keep your attention in that part of the body, the more you'll be able to feel heat within it. Slowly, methodically move your attention all over your body, just whatever feels right. Feel the heat throughout the body. Move the heat in waves up and down your body. Then draw your attention into your genitals. I've used my PC muscle (after kegels) as a focus. I've also used the base of the shaft which works pretty well too. Try to create that pleasant feeling of radiating heat. Twice/day, 15 min/each session.

Let's do it.[/quote] Alright I'll give it a try, it should worth the while