I need help. Watched Porn with no erection. After 120days..

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Hi everyone.
It's been 120days since I started no PMO, and I hadn't seen much improvement.
Yesterday, I was organizing stuff from the past...One of the things I did was converting my videos into PC data. I mean, not porn, but mainly movies etc. But I had one specific porn video which was my first ever porn I watched when I was 14 or 15 (I'm now 36). So I couldn't resist it and decided to convert it. And out of curiosity (What was it like?), I watched it.
I thought I would accept the risk of slowing down my recovery. I didn't mean to masturbate or anything.

So I watched like "Yeah yeah it was like that..." and I expected I would have an erection because it was after 120days of no PMO...I thought if my brain is starting to recover, it should give some stimulation. But I had no erection at all. I panicked a bit. So, I downloaded one porn movie and watched it to "test" it (I know I shouldn't have, please don't blame me for this). The reason was I thought I couldn't get an erection, because the porn (my first porn) was too old, the girl was not my type now at all, etc. etc. So I thought if I watched a porn with "my type" of a girl now, it would give me an erection.

Nope. My thing didn't get up at all by just watching it. So I panicked again. I used my hand. It became bigger, but I didn't get a full erection. And I wanted to have an orgasm with my penis half - or less than half- erected. (I didn't though). It died down and shrank soon, and never came back up.

It was an exact problem I had before I started no PMO. So I am now wondering how much recovery did I get?

I DO know that the purpose of this no PMO thing is to get an erection with a real woman, and not with porn (yes that would defeat the whole purpose).

However, if you recover - even though watching pron is a no no - watching porn should give you an erection, shouldn't it?

I have read the articles and know that it has ups and downs, but I'm starting to wonder if my ED problem is really coming from Porn addiction (Though I am sure I was addicted to porn) and I'm actually on my way to full recovery.

If I'm still like that after 120 days, I could imagine it would take much more time to make my brain "forget" about past porn stimulation.

Besides I just watched porn and masturbated (no orgasm), that should have slowed down the process, if not regressed it.

Should I keep going? What else can I do?
(I know going to see a doctor is one option, but other than that)
I follow most advice already though - social life, interaction with women and I drink only occasionally and I don't smoke, I have no major disease. I eat mostly healthy food. One thing missing is I don't exercise though.

One good piece of news is that I still had a morning erection this morning - though not full erection. So I assume I don't have real physical problems.

Any input, advise, just cheering me up, would be appreciated. I'm getting desperate, and it is really bothering me and affecting my life. (I tried to forget about it for a long time but after 120days, it really bothers me again).

Thank you for your help.

Keep going

Hey man, I'm new here and I haven't read all of your entries in detail (hope to in time), but it sounds like you're making progress, with the morning woods, etc. So don't get discouraged. Delete that old porn video and pretend you never saw it. Why not add exercise into the regimen? It's not like there is a downside to running, playing spots or hitting the gym.

Keep going

I just mean exercise could be the final boost you need - great for circulation, supposed to rebuild dopamine receptors, strengthens your heart, reduces stress. Is there a reason you have resisted exercise to this point?

Hi Batman,

Hi Batman,
Thanks for your comments. Yes, absolutely I should get rid of my old porn - it was kind of my memory, kinda makes me feel "nostalgic" about the time (I saw the same porn again and again around that time) so I decided to keep it. But, you are right, I should delete it and pretend I never saw it. Really good advice the part pretending not have seen it.

As for exercising - there is a reason...I have a minor neck problem and if I exercise my neck and shoulder hurt the next day. Not really bad, or not life threatening either, and my doctor said it is OK to exercise, but the pain is annoying and that's why.But I actually now made up my mind to exercise slowly and manage the pain somehow.:)
I really really want to get over this thing, and I will. But without knowing where I am now, I feel as if I was walking in a tunnel not knowing where it ends...

Hey,

Hey,

I've been rebooting for a while too and not gotten perfect results. As for the video, you are 36, you probably won't get erections from just watching. Even the first time I watched a full porn video in my early 20's, I remember I got an erection for a few minutes but it didn't last the whole time. Maybe you are the kind of guy that needs physical stimulation or to be with an actual girl.

As for the masturbation part, sometimes I encounter the ejaculation without a full erection thing too. I have a masturbation schedule (once every 10-14 days). The last time I did it, I ejaculated being only around 70% erect. I'm actually not sure why that is and it bothers me too. I'd guess that it has to do with by too sensitive now? Like even slight strokes really make me want to cum. For me, I don't think it's a permanent issue as I've masturbated a couple of times in the past few weeks and the other times, that didn't happen.

Last thing is that you were panicked. When you have anxiety, it's unlikely that you'll be able to get it up. Were you at least turned on or felt horny by watching the video?

why would you want to?

Isn't it nice that you don't get an erection by watching a two dimensional series of pixels consisting of other people in sexual activities?

What a sign of improving mental and physical health!

Context is everything. You are testing, you are anxious. This has nothing whatever to do with how you will do with a real woman in a real situation.

 

agreed

I gotta agree with fixme and emerson. It's probably more normal not to get an erection just from watching porn than to get one. The real thing is totally different. Also you're 36. You probably can't expect your 16 year old penis any more than I can expect my 16 year old abs.

Thanks guys for your replies

Thanks guys for your replies/comments.
I don't know...can anyone not get an erection at all watching porn and can have an erection while having real sex? If that's really possible, then I don't want an erection while watching porn.
Just yesterday I was talking with my buddy. He is 43, and he has a girlfriend and he only sees her once a week because he is busy. And he says he can have sex with her as many times as he wants, and while he can't see her he "has to" watch porn everyday to keep it down! He was talking about how much he loves having sex and watching porn. I know everybody is different, but he is 43!! I was not telling him my problems so he was going on and on about how sexually strong he was and that made me really envy him....

Are you using

this self-massage idea by any chance? Tips For Former Fappers

Also, if you're tired of waiting (I would be), read this book (which is partly about "soft entry"). If it calls to you, maybe you could find a way to find a lover interested in trying it. Tantric Sex For Men.RICHARDSON

I suspect that the sooner you take the performance pressure off of yourself entirely, the better. Any who knows? You may find you were glad it unfolded in a way that forced you to learn something new. I know your buddy's lifestyle seems ideal to you, but there are other approaches that can be quite magical too. Brains, and pair-bonder tendencies, differ.