Im not exactly sure if this is the right place to post but here goes.
I am the partner of a recovering pmo addict, it has been about 8 months since the shocking discovery and this has been the hardest time of my life (lacking the hard lol).
We are both young, early twenties and I have a very high sex drive, we have been experiencing a bit of ed which he explains is anxiety.
That is very hard for me to believe as this whole ordeal has really smashed any confidence I had into tiny pieces of poo.
It would take an incredibly long time to explain the whole thing so im just going to ask for some advice on repair.
How do I help him get over the anxiety, he says its because he knows how bad I feel and he starts thinking and it just goes down.
I think its because im unattractive and boring (yes i'm a woman) as his only past relationship was incredibly dirty including his porn use and in that relationship he wasnt going down all the time.
Every time it happens its like im being shot right in the confidence, I know that I shouldn't feel this way but i'm just so depressed, I just wish I could be good enough.
Should we not be having sex?
I thought it may be a good idea for us to go a month without and we went two weeks, I just enjoy pleasing him and being close but if no sex for a while will help us I will do it.
I have read countless articles and forums but I cant see a cure, I just want to have a fun and healthy sex life with him.
Im too scared to wear sexy lingerie or even go down on him because im worried ill scare him and he'll get worried.