To begin, I'd just like to say how grateful I am for this site. My boyfriend and I started our relationship in Febuary, and it seemed like a romance fit for a novel, it was all starry eyes and future plans. However, we live about an hour apart and we only see each other on the weekends, so (being the adolecents that we are) things would usually get pretty heated after days of not seeing each other. About six months into the relationship, I felt something was wrong; there was a growing distance between us, we were bickering and often moody with each other, and although I tried to recaim his affection through pleasing him in bed, the luster seemed to have completely dissipated like a smoke cloud. I felt hurt that someone who claimed to love me would treat me so. After doing some research and reading a few chapters from the book 'Peace Between The Sheets' everything started to make sense. I was nervous to approach my partner with this idea of ditching goal orientated sex/telling him the truth about how I've been feeling. Finally, last night I had the courage to do so and it went surprisingly well. He listened to what I had to say with an open mind, was not defensive, but rather apologetic and eager to try the alternative.
Now there is a new obstacle, which is why I am posting this forum; because we live apart most of the week, we are unsure of how to go about the exchanges. From what I know, couples are supposed to spend everynight together, and if separated must start all over again. We are already quite affectionate and our relationship is completely honest and open so we thought that we could even delve Into karezza intercourse imediately (this happened last night and felt completely natural/beautiful) but I'm afraid of relapse into conventional sex without first strengthening our minds. My partner is also afraid of accidental dream orgasms when separated from me.
If anyone has any information from personal experience, it would be greatly appreciated! We are only just vigins to this (so to speak) and trusting our hearts will lead us the right way.